How wonderful it would be if we could all see the colours surrounding each one of us. Some of my lucky friends can. It would be helpful to see what colour our family and friends are sending out as it would help to understand them more.
One of the ways we can see the colours that people are sending out to us as expressions of their emotions and attitudes is to look at what colour they constantly wear or what colour they love. This is a connection to the chakra that they are most involved with. Wearing the colour helps to 'refill' the chakra that is being used just like refilling a bottle.
If a person constantly wears Red, they are expressing the needs of the Root Chakra. It is a physical, leadership colour. They are saying that they need to be in charge and the Red colour is filling up the Root Chakra as the colour is being used.
Wearing Orange constantly is rare. This is a colour of relationships and people are often uncomfortable in expressing this need. But if you do know someone who wears this colour all the time you will find that they love to be with people. The stronger the orange the stronger the need for social interaction.
Not too many people wear Yellow all the time. People usually wear it occasionally, when they feel happy and wanting to communicate with others. Yellow expresses the need to communicate and there is a need to have friends or family who will want to be involved in this communication.
Green. As Green is a combination of Blue and Yellow it depends on the type of Green a person loves and wears. (This also shows the type of skin colour they have. Yellow based skin can wear, and like a Yellow/Green (lime green) and Blue based skin would love and wear Blue/Green (turquoise) Green is the colour of the Heart Chakra and as Yellow is a communicator, Yellow Green is indicating a more communicating or intellectual approach to love. Blue is the colour of self expression and the need to help others so Blue/Greens are more connected with expressing the emotions of the heart and understanding the emotional needs of others.
Blue is the colour of Self expression and the need to help others. So, when a person continually wears Blue you can be sure that they will want to support and help others. This is the colour of the Throat Chakra so if a person spends all of their time supporting others their Throat Chakra does not get its own fulfillment by expressing their own needs. This leads to the Throat Chakra area (Throat, neck, and shoulders) becoming tight and tense.
Indigo (third eye chakra) is not often worn. The few people that do wear it are usually withdrawn and looking within. They are usually psychic. Purple is more often worn as a colour close to this. Purple is often thought of as a psychic colour, but it is more a colour of power and control. A wonderful colour to wear when you need to be in charge and feel confident in yourself.
Violet, Crown Chakra. is the 'watered down' version of Purple. It is more intuitive and psychic as it is full of white light. People who wear Violet often are usually intuitive, artistic and kind. As this Chakra gives out a lot it needs a lot of Violet to fill it . So amythest crystals also help to fill it up.
Because it is often hard to display our emotions in the form of colour or it is not suitable for our lifestyle, such as a busy office, people will wear Black. This will 'cover up' the colours of the body and allow the person to present themselves in the way that is expected of them in their situation. Wearing Black can often stop other peoples Chakras draining yours. Wearing White will allow others Chakras to drain your own unless you protect your Aura. I use a Pyramid of White light and that is very efficient. Other people have their own way of protection their Auras.
When you wear White all of your Chakras are exposed and you are showing yourself as an open person. This is good if you keep your Aura protected and will allow you to express the person you wish to be.
Our Auras change constantly, depending on our current emotional attitudes so an Aura that is mostly Blue can have flashes of Red in it if the person is suddenly angry. So they may wish to wear a Red scarf with their Blue outfit.
Green in Auras that have a 'murky' appearance can indicate that the person is jealous or is feeling that they work had and do not get appreciated for their hard work. They can then tend to wear a Green that has a 'brownish' tinge in it.
The type of Red in the Aura can indicate the condition of the blood. Wearing bright/strong Red a lot means that the person is usually in good health. There will also be bright Red in the Aura.
Dark Red (Marone or Plumb) worn constantly can indicate a problem with the blood, probably thicker than it should be. That colour will be in the Aura and it is a good idea to get the blood checked if dark or 'murky' Red is constantly worn.
We are working with all our Chakras all the time so flashes of other colours are usually seen in the Aura. From time to time people will change their favorite colour when their needs change
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Saturday, 15 June 2013
Tuesday, 30 April 2013
STRESS AND VIOLENCE
Years ago a friend of mine started producing a new type of newspaper. He recorded only GOOD news and HAPPY events. He had to give up after a few months. Nobody bought it!!
I hear over and over again from my friends that they have just about given up watching tele. because of all the violent shows on it. Even pleasant shows seem to have to include at least one murder in them.
When we turn to shows about the simple task of cooking the joy of what is prepared is overshadowed by the stress involved in 'battling' with the other contestants in order to win. The more stress that the contestants face the better the show is watched.
EVERYTHING it seems has to be turned into stress or a 'battle'. Listening to the beautiful voices on The Voice has to be viewed by seeing the singers struggling to get a place in the contest and having to see their stress as their dreams are shattered by someone judging what they do. If they finally DO get into the contest they have to 'battle' with their team mates and face up to more stress if they do not win.
WHY do people so enjoy watching other people in stressful situations? Either in shows where someone is murdered or shows where they have to endured stress and often humiliation in order to succeed.
At lunch recently I was talking to friends who were discussing an old show called The Darling Buds of May. It was quite a favorite in its day. I can remember waiting for it to come on every week with my mother. We never missed it. In that show David Jason owned a country property, had a beautiful 'large' companion (they did not bother to get married until well into the show) They had several beautiful children, they over ate and had a lovely, happy life. They still managed to have adventures to keep us interested, but did not have any murders or really distressing situations. He managed to keep life going well (possibly a little shady) but always pronounce everything to be 'perfic'!! He and his partner and children were kind and tolerant of each other and the other members of their community. It was such a pleasure to watch people working together and not judging or stressing their family or friends. When the show finished you could happily go off to bed and sleep well. I wonder how many people realize that the murders and stress that they have been watching before retiring is the reason that they find it hard to get a restful sleep.
Whenever 'the news' comes on the tele. it is %99 violence or interviewing people in stress. Occasionally we are given a bit of relief by something funny or pleasant.
When I was a child (pre TV) we only had our own problems to deal with. True, we had the depression and our loved ones going off to war but they were our own problems to deal with. Now the whole world is thrust into our living rooms and our poor little bodies and chakras have to deal with the stress of the whole world. Our bodies/sub conscience do not know that these are not necessarily our problems and the mind and body has to deal with all this information flowing into it in it's own way. As each person handles stress differently the body can react with headaches, stomach aches or some other reaction. It is important to recognize that we need to feed our mind as well and our bodies with good food in order to cope with this world that seems to revel in stress and violence.
I hear over and over again from my friends that they have just about given up watching tele. because of all the violent shows on it. Even pleasant shows seem to have to include at least one murder in them.
When we turn to shows about the simple task of cooking the joy of what is prepared is overshadowed by the stress involved in 'battling' with the other contestants in order to win. The more stress that the contestants face the better the show is watched.
EVERYTHING it seems has to be turned into stress or a 'battle'. Listening to the beautiful voices on The Voice has to be viewed by seeing the singers struggling to get a place in the contest and having to see their stress as their dreams are shattered by someone judging what they do. If they finally DO get into the contest they have to 'battle' with their team mates and face up to more stress if they do not win.
WHY do people so enjoy watching other people in stressful situations? Either in shows where someone is murdered or shows where they have to endured stress and often humiliation in order to succeed.
At lunch recently I was talking to friends who were discussing an old show called The Darling Buds of May. It was quite a favorite in its day. I can remember waiting for it to come on every week with my mother. We never missed it. In that show David Jason owned a country property, had a beautiful 'large' companion (they did not bother to get married until well into the show) They had several beautiful children, they over ate and had a lovely, happy life. They still managed to have adventures to keep us interested, but did not have any murders or really distressing situations. He managed to keep life going well (possibly a little shady) but always pronounce everything to be 'perfic'!! He and his partner and children were kind and tolerant of each other and the other members of their community. It was such a pleasure to watch people working together and not judging or stressing their family or friends. When the show finished you could happily go off to bed and sleep well. I wonder how many people realize that the murders and stress that they have been watching before retiring is the reason that they find it hard to get a restful sleep.
Whenever 'the news' comes on the tele. it is %99 violence or interviewing people in stress. Occasionally we are given a bit of relief by something funny or pleasant.
When I was a child (pre TV) we only had our own problems to deal with. True, we had the depression and our loved ones going off to war but they were our own problems to deal with. Now the whole world is thrust into our living rooms and our poor little bodies and chakras have to deal with the stress of the whole world. Our bodies/sub conscience do not know that these are not necessarily our problems and the mind and body has to deal with all this information flowing into it in it's own way. As each person handles stress differently the body can react with headaches, stomach aches or some other reaction. It is important to recognize that we need to feed our mind as well and our bodies with good food in order to cope with this world that seems to revel in stress and violence.
Saturday, 30 March 2013
EASTER AND JESUS
I am not a Catholic, or a Church of England or a Baptist. I was told I was a Prespiterian, but I could not write that down as I could never figure out how to spell it. My religious training was one visit to a Sunday School meeting. I saw my friends going to Sunday School and thought I might like to try it. I asked my mum and she said "go ahead, if you like it you can go, if not don't go". So I tried it and was not impressed and that was the end of my religious training.
Growing up I did not like all the rules and dogma I saw at Churches, but when a friend of mine finally got me to a Spiritualist Church and I saw their principles, specially Personal Responsibility I felt I had come home. This was helped by the fact that Marcia, who had been on the platform that night healed my stiff neck and in the next six weeks healed a rash on my legs that had been there for 20 years. The doctors said it was incurable. I thought " there really must be something in this Spiritual stuff" and I still think that twenty years later.
Easter now seems to be all about holidays and chocolate eggs. But really Jesus is the reason for the season. I have been writing lots of articles about the New Era we are living in now since the end of the Mayan Calendar in 2012. What has been reported about Jesus was that he was trying to get over the same message as we are getting again now Love and acceptance. Because he was the person who was at the beginning of the Piscean Age (the age of Sacrifice) Jesus brought this message to us through sacrifice. Now, we are entering into the Aquarian Age (the age of acceptance) this message is being brought to us by many beautiful people and many situations.
It is time now to follow Jesus's message of Love and acceptance in a new way. Not by sacrificing our own personality for ideas that have been handed down from the Piscean Age but to use the knowledge and progress that mankind has made over the years to look at life in a different way, appreciating the wonderful body that we have been given and the wonderful country we live in. We need to stop criticising and judging and start to really look at others. Just because other people and other countries have different ideas to us does not mean that they are wrong. Acceptance brings tolerance and those two things could stop many disagreements and heartaches and wars.
I would like to add to this something about my Mum. She was a kind lady, who thought that kindness was the very best characteristic anyone could have. She never raised her voice and always supported me and my sister and brothers to do the things that we loved to do. She was rather concerned about my interest in Spiritualism but accepted that this was who I was. I think that she was carrying out the teachings of Jesus although she never went to Church but was loved by all who knew her.
Growing up I did not like all the rules and dogma I saw at Churches, but when a friend of mine finally got me to a Spiritualist Church and I saw their principles, specially Personal Responsibility I felt I had come home. This was helped by the fact that Marcia, who had been on the platform that night healed my stiff neck and in the next six weeks healed a rash on my legs that had been there for 20 years. The doctors said it was incurable. I thought " there really must be something in this Spiritual stuff" and I still think that twenty years later.
Easter now seems to be all about holidays and chocolate eggs. But really Jesus is the reason for the season. I have been writing lots of articles about the New Era we are living in now since the end of the Mayan Calendar in 2012. What has been reported about Jesus was that he was trying to get over the same message as we are getting again now Love and acceptance. Because he was the person who was at the beginning of the Piscean Age (the age of Sacrifice) Jesus brought this message to us through sacrifice. Now, we are entering into the Aquarian Age (the age of acceptance) this message is being brought to us by many beautiful people and many situations.
It is time now to follow Jesus's message of Love and acceptance in a new way. Not by sacrificing our own personality for ideas that have been handed down from the Piscean Age but to use the knowledge and progress that mankind has made over the years to look at life in a different way, appreciating the wonderful body that we have been given and the wonderful country we live in. We need to stop criticising and judging and start to really look at others. Just because other people and other countries have different ideas to us does not mean that they are wrong. Acceptance brings tolerance and those two things could stop many disagreements and heartaches and wars.
I would like to add to this something about my Mum. She was a kind lady, who thought that kindness was the very best characteristic anyone could have. She never raised her voice and always supported me and my sister and brothers to do the things that we loved to do. She was rather concerned about my interest in Spiritualism but accepted that this was who I was. I think that she was carrying out the teachings of Jesus although she never went to Church but was loved by all who knew her.
Thursday, 28 March 2013
THE NODES OF THE MOON
Hundreds of years ago the Chinese knew that the Moon had North and South Nodes. They called them the Dragon's Head and the Dragon's Tail. Here in the West we have only started using this information in recent years.
The Nodes are created by the Moon cutting across the path of the Sun. Going upward is the North Node and going downward is the South Node.
Since learning about the Nodes I have found that I never start working on an Astrological Birth Chart without spending time examining the affect that the North and South Node have in the life of the person whose chart I am doing.
The South Node indicates things that the client wants to change in this lifetime. Attitudes and behavior patterns from past lives that they want to overcome or improve. Once a client has mastered these changes they can begin to use again strengths that had not been used to their full advantage in past lives.
The North Node indicates the attitudes and behavior that the client is working towards. This is always exactly the opposite of past life patterns so it is usually hard to do.
If planets are close to the North Node,(in the same sign) such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars or Venus this indicates that the person is getting very close to developing the qualities they want this lifetime as they have these qualities already in their life.
If planets are close to the South Node, (in the same sign) it us usually harder for a person to overcome past life attitudes as they still have similar behavior patterns.
Once the North and South Nodes have been examined it is time to look at the person's Chart to find planets and signs in the different houses that can help the client to be the best person they can be in this lifetime. That is always the aim of each lifetime, to improve on past lives and to develop the characteristics of love, tolerance and acceptance towards others. This can usually be done by experiencing many situations and gaining knowledge and understanding from your experiences. Most things in life are learned the hard way. But when we look back on these hard experiences we find that they have taught us things that we needed to know.
During our lives the Planets move through different constellations giving us the opportunity to work with the new energies that are beaming down on us. In our Astrological charts there are always planets and signs that can show us the way to our best development and as these planets move into different signs we can use this energy to develop ourselves to the best person we can be this lifetime.
These developments are happening to everyone whether they understand or are interested in Astrology. When we look back through our lives we can see how patterns and situations have changed and developed for us.
It is not what happens to us in life, it is how we handle the situation that gives us joy or sadness.
The Nodes are created by the Moon cutting across the path of the Sun. Going upward is the North Node and going downward is the South Node.
Since learning about the Nodes I have found that I never start working on an Astrological Birth Chart without spending time examining the affect that the North and South Node have in the life of the person whose chart I am doing.
The South Node indicates things that the client wants to change in this lifetime. Attitudes and behavior patterns from past lives that they want to overcome or improve. Once a client has mastered these changes they can begin to use again strengths that had not been used to their full advantage in past lives.
The North Node indicates the attitudes and behavior that the client is working towards. This is always exactly the opposite of past life patterns so it is usually hard to do.
If planets are close to the North Node,(in the same sign) such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars or Venus this indicates that the person is getting very close to developing the qualities they want this lifetime as they have these qualities already in their life.
If planets are close to the South Node, (in the same sign) it us usually harder for a person to overcome past life attitudes as they still have similar behavior patterns.
Once the North and South Nodes have been examined it is time to look at the person's Chart to find planets and signs in the different houses that can help the client to be the best person they can be in this lifetime. That is always the aim of each lifetime, to improve on past lives and to develop the characteristics of love, tolerance and acceptance towards others. This can usually be done by experiencing many situations and gaining knowledge and understanding from your experiences. Most things in life are learned the hard way. But when we look back on these hard experiences we find that they have taught us things that we needed to know.
During our lives the Planets move through different constellations giving us the opportunity to work with the new energies that are beaming down on us. In our Astrological charts there are always planets and signs that can show us the way to our best development and as these planets move into different signs we can use this energy to develop ourselves to the best person we can be this lifetime.
These developments are happening to everyone whether they understand or are interested in Astrology. When we look back through our lives we can see how patterns and situations have changed and developed for us.
It is not what happens to us in life, it is how we handle the situation that gives us joy or sadness.
Monday, 4 March 2013
NEW WORKSHOPS AND CHURCH PLATFORMS
I will be on the platform of the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, cnr. Swan and Queen Sts. off Darby on Sunday 15th February 2014 at 3 pm. Topic Healing. plus readings.
I am holding a Workshop on Auras, Chakras and Crystals on Saturday 28th February at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, from 10am to 5pm. Cost $60.00.
Workshop will cover, Measuring your Aura, How to enlarge your Aura, Chakra Colours for Healing, The NEW Chakras. Balancing the Aura with Crystal Pendulum (bring your own if you have one). Balancing the Aura with Kinesiology. Mending and polishing the Aura with Aura Soma.
If you wish to attend please put your name and phone number on the list at the Spiritualist Church or contact Shirley on (02) 40238406 to let me know if you are coming so that I can have sufficient notes for each person.
2014
I intend to hold a 12 week Colour Course next year 2015 commencing in March. This course will cover all aspects of Colour, Colour Psychology, Interior Decorating Colours, Clothing Colours, Chakra Colours, Healing with Colours and Crystals and lights. Chakra Balancing with Colour and Crystals.
Limited placements. If you wish to come please contact Shirley so that I can hold a place for you.
Cost $25. per week. Probably Monday, 10.30 to 12. 30.
I am available for a short 12 week Astrology Course if enough people contact me about it.
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I am also available for Astrology Charts. I will need your name, full birth name, date of Birth, time of Birth (if not known I can 'douse' it for you) and place of Birth, also where you live now in order to make you a progressed Chart showing where your Planets are now.
I can send your Chart to you or you can visit me at Mayfield West (near Newcastle) to have the Chart interpreted. It takes from one hour to one and a half hours usually. (sometimes longer) This can be put on a Cassette tape or a USB stick for you. Or you can tape it yourself on your mobile or tablet.
The chart Astrology/Numerology costs $100.00 If posted $110.00
You can contact me by phone (02)40238406 or shirleydarby@dodo.com.au
I am holding a Workshop on Auras, Chakras and Crystals on Saturday 28th February at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, from 10am to 5pm. Cost $60.00.
Workshop will cover, Measuring your Aura, How to enlarge your Aura, Chakra Colours for Healing, The NEW Chakras. Balancing the Aura with Crystal Pendulum (bring your own if you have one). Balancing the Aura with Kinesiology. Mending and polishing the Aura with Aura Soma.
If you wish to attend please put your name and phone number on the list at the Spiritualist Church or contact Shirley on (02) 40238406 to let me know if you are coming so that I can have sufficient notes for each person.
2014
I intend to hold a 12 week Colour Course next year 2015 commencing in March. This course will cover all aspects of Colour, Colour Psychology, Interior Decorating Colours, Clothing Colours, Chakra Colours, Healing with Colours and Crystals and lights. Chakra Balancing with Colour and Crystals.
Limited placements. If you wish to come please contact Shirley so that I can hold a place for you.
Cost $25. per week. Probably Monday, 10.30 to 12. 30.
I am available for a short 12 week Astrology Course if enough people contact me about it.
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I am also available for Astrology Charts. I will need your name, full birth name, date of Birth, time of Birth (if not known I can 'douse' it for you) and place of Birth, also where you live now in order to make you a progressed Chart showing where your Planets are now.
I can send your Chart to you or you can visit me at Mayfield West (near Newcastle) to have the Chart interpreted. It takes from one hour to one and a half hours usually. (sometimes longer) This can be put on a Cassette tape or a USB stick for you. Or you can tape it yourself on your mobile or tablet.
The chart Astrology/Numerology costs $100.00 If posted $110.00
You can contact me by phone (02)40238406 or shirleydarby@dodo.com.au
Saturday, 23 February 2013
LOVE AND MARRIAGE
FALLING IN LOVE IS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST REASON FOR MARRIAGE.
Falling in love is a time when we are totally involved with another. A time when we wish to be with them at all times. A time when we only see their wonderful traits and do not wish to see anything that will 'burst the bubble'. This is a time when you are worshipped and you worship the other.
THIS IS A SITUATION THAT IS DIFFICULT TO KEEP GOING FOR THE NEXT 40 OR 50 YEARS.
This has been the reason for the 'engagement' time. A time between falling in love and getting to see other characteristics in our partner. This is also a time when we should be looking at whether we want to spend the next 40 or 50 years with this person, thinking about where you will live, do you want children, will you both work, how will our families get along etc. So many girls now days spend this time planning a huge (expensive) wedding and The Dress!! This is all part of the fairytale...the day when they will be the centre of attention...the day when not only their future husband will look at them with adoration, but they will be admired by all those guests at the wedding.
Marriage was once necessary for women as they were not allowed to earn their own living and had to depend on a man to take care of them and their children.Without the modern conveniences we have now men needed a woman in their home to take care of them and the family.
The roles were clear cut. Women did not spend months or years planning the most expensive wedding they could think of, or the dress that would allow them to be the most beautiful woman in the world. They spent the time before marriage learning the skills that they would need to keep their marriage going well for the next 40 or 50 years. Each person knew their 'role' and although this did not necessarily make them happy they worked at their own jobs.
Now it is so easy to let go and finish a marriage when the fantasy has settled into everyday situations. This has created so many stressed women, men and children. So many unhappy people who have found themselves in a life with someone that the do not really know. Someone who does not understand their deepest values.
Naturally, there are happy marriages with people who are lucky enough to find a partner with the same values as themselves. This is the main thing that must be addressed. What are your values? Does your partner understand them? Do you understand your partner's values?
Marriage needs to have a firm foundation if it is to succeed. The reasons for marriage are not so importnt now as men and women can earn their own money and have their own car and homes. It is still good for children to have a secure environment with male and female energies to guide them.
Now that we are entering the Aquarian age of acceptance, and moving out of the Piscean age of sacrifice we need to look at our old traditions and see if we feel that they are right for the place we are in.
We are creating new traditions with the situations and world attitudes we are living in now.
Falling in love is a time when we are totally involved with another. A time when we wish to be with them at all times. A time when we only see their wonderful traits and do not wish to see anything that will 'burst the bubble'. This is a time when you are worshipped and you worship the other.
THIS IS A SITUATION THAT IS DIFFICULT TO KEEP GOING FOR THE NEXT 40 OR 50 YEARS.
This has been the reason for the 'engagement' time. A time between falling in love and getting to see other characteristics in our partner. This is also a time when we should be looking at whether we want to spend the next 40 or 50 years with this person, thinking about where you will live, do you want children, will you both work, how will our families get along etc. So many girls now days spend this time planning a huge (expensive) wedding and The Dress!! This is all part of the fairytale...the day when they will be the centre of attention...the day when not only their future husband will look at them with adoration, but they will be admired by all those guests at the wedding.
Marriage was once necessary for women as they were not allowed to earn their own living and had to depend on a man to take care of them and their children.Without the modern conveniences we have now men needed a woman in their home to take care of them and the family.
The roles were clear cut. Women did not spend months or years planning the most expensive wedding they could think of, or the dress that would allow them to be the most beautiful woman in the world. They spent the time before marriage learning the skills that they would need to keep their marriage going well for the next 40 or 50 years. Each person knew their 'role' and although this did not necessarily make them happy they worked at their own jobs.
Now it is so easy to let go and finish a marriage when the fantasy has settled into everyday situations. This has created so many stressed women, men and children. So many unhappy people who have found themselves in a life with someone that the do not really know. Someone who does not understand their deepest values.
Naturally, there are happy marriages with people who are lucky enough to find a partner with the same values as themselves. This is the main thing that must be addressed. What are your values? Does your partner understand them? Do you understand your partner's values?
Marriage needs to have a firm foundation if it is to succeed. The reasons for marriage are not so importnt now as men and women can earn their own money and have their own car and homes. It is still good for children to have a secure environment with male and female energies to guide them.
Now that we are entering the Aquarian age of acceptance, and moving out of the Piscean age of sacrifice we need to look at our old traditions and see if we feel that they are right for the place we are in.
We are creating new traditions with the situations and world attitudes we are living in now.
Tuesday, 19 February 2013
VALUES
Recently, during my meditation three Blue Angels appeared. They were holding a largebook titled VALUES. It was a very large book. The Angel in the middle held the book while the other two Angels supported the outspread pages.
As my main interest at the moment is about relationship it occured to me how important each person's values were in their relationship to each other. The book was showing me a page for each person with a list of the things that they valued. There was a photo of each person beside their values.
I asked the other members of my meditation group if they were willing to fill in a page of their values in order to put in a book so that others might be able to look at it and compare their own values.
In the list was, name, astrological sign, age, married, un married, nationality, religion. Also, what value do you place on...money, your family, marriage, sex, your job or career, your home, your friends, spirituality, your sport, your hobby, your entertainment, your politics?
What a list. Just one of those subjects can disrupt a relationship. Look at all the areas in your life where you can have disagreements or differences of opinions.
Many of our values are in place by the time we are five years old. Until children are five they are only obtaining their values by their emotions, not their mental capacities. Strong family values of nationality, religion and home soak into a young child. These values can cause problems for them at a later stage in their lives as an ingrained attitude without them realising that they have the ability to look at thing differently now.
As we grow we develop our own ideas and attitudes through our basic nature (astrological sign) and inhereted family characteristics as well as the many different friends we meet and the many different situations we find ourselves in. We may become dedicated to a particular sport or form or entertainment such as rock music or opera. We may agree or disagree with our family's politics. We may have rowdy friends or intellectual friends.
During our growing up time we form ideas about what we feel is attractive in the opposite sex. We often head for that type of person without realising that all the other values are part of us and part of them.
Part of our western idea of 'falling in love' is actually 'falling in love' with something the other person has that we would like to have, such as popularity, confidence, softness or hardness. In the initial 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship while we are being adored and can do no wrong many values in the other person are overlooked. However, once the 'romance' has settled down a little different values raise their ugly head and need to be addressed. It takes real love to work through the problems that different values present.
Spiritual values of love, acceptance and the knowledge that we are all here on the Earth School learning about how we can develop the best of ourselves can often help couples to look at their differences in a kinder way. Realising that none of us are perfect and we are all learning.
If we are lucky enough to meet someone who has similar values and is tolerant of different values we should be extremely grateful and do our best to help others to appreciate their own values too.
As my main interest at the moment is about relationship it occured to me how important each person's values were in their relationship to each other. The book was showing me a page for each person with a list of the things that they valued. There was a photo of each person beside their values.
I asked the other members of my meditation group if they were willing to fill in a page of their values in order to put in a book so that others might be able to look at it and compare their own values.
In the list was, name, astrological sign, age, married, un married, nationality, religion. Also, what value do you place on...money, your family, marriage, sex, your job or career, your home, your friends, spirituality, your sport, your hobby, your entertainment, your politics?
What a list. Just one of those subjects can disrupt a relationship. Look at all the areas in your life where you can have disagreements or differences of opinions.
Many of our values are in place by the time we are five years old. Until children are five they are only obtaining their values by their emotions, not their mental capacities. Strong family values of nationality, religion and home soak into a young child. These values can cause problems for them at a later stage in their lives as an ingrained attitude without them realising that they have the ability to look at thing differently now.
As we grow we develop our own ideas and attitudes through our basic nature (astrological sign) and inhereted family characteristics as well as the many different friends we meet and the many different situations we find ourselves in. We may become dedicated to a particular sport or form or entertainment such as rock music or opera. We may agree or disagree with our family's politics. We may have rowdy friends or intellectual friends.
During our growing up time we form ideas about what we feel is attractive in the opposite sex. We often head for that type of person without realising that all the other values are part of us and part of them.
Part of our western idea of 'falling in love' is actually 'falling in love' with something the other person has that we would like to have, such as popularity, confidence, softness or hardness. In the initial 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship while we are being adored and can do no wrong many values in the other person are overlooked. However, once the 'romance' has settled down a little different values raise their ugly head and need to be addressed. It takes real love to work through the problems that different values present.
Spiritual values of love, acceptance and the knowledge that we are all here on the Earth School learning about how we can develop the best of ourselves can often help couples to look at their differences in a kinder way. Realising that none of us are perfect and we are all learning.
If we are lucky enough to meet someone who has similar values and is tolerant of different values we should be extremely grateful and do our best to help others to appreciate their own values too.
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