RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

I have been an Astrologer for over 40 years. I studied with a man who taught us the Spiritual Aspects of Astrology and the importance of understanding what made you 'tick' and the purpose of your time here in this lifetime.                                                                                                                                               

 During my many years of working with people and helping them to understand themselves through Astrology I have had couples come to me to help them to understand their differences.                          

Understanding and accepting others is a key factor in moving into the Aquarian Age                                  All confrontations, personal, religious and countries are all based in the idea that I am right, you are wrong, My way is best, or the only way, your way is wrong. When this happens in a personal situation it is extremely helpful to have an Astrological Birth chart made for each person and be able to show each one why they have certain attitudes that are different to the other. Once each person can see that the other person has planetry patterns that make them think a certain way it is easier to understand their behaviour.

The word relationships seems to be more important than ever now as we are going into a new time of helping and undersanding each other. This is different to the old Piscean way of sacrifice and following whatever has been taught to them.                                                                                                              

I am available for Relationship Counselling for lovers, parents and children, friends etc. I will create a Birth chart for each person and spend time with you both showing you the reasons that you find it difficult to communicate and also suggest ways in which you can work together and accept the others needs. You can come and have a consultation with me at my home in Mayfield West (Newcastle) or I can do charts for you and do a reading for you on a USB stick.   You can contact me on my e mail address shirleydarby@dodo.com.au or by phone (02)40238406.

THE MOUTH

The first part of their anatomy that babies get pleasure from is their mouth. Every new object is experienced there. They may also gain a sense of comfort and security from doing this. From the moment we are born every time we show distress something is put in our mouth to quiet and comfort us. We are trained very early not to accept distress and not to distress others with our emotional needs. When we show early signs of distress we have either a bottle or a breast put in our mouths, then a dummy....anything to keep us from distressing others with our noise. After that it is food then sweets, somethimes the thumb, and as we grow it is a 'nice' cup of tea, coffee, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs etc. Whenever we need comfort we put something in our mouths to stop us from expressing what we feel. This often covers up our real feelings and stops us saying just what it is that upsets us in order to be more acceptable to others. Joining with others, eating lots of food or drinking lots of alcohol or even standing around with friends having a smoke can give a feeling of acceptance and comfort.                                                                                                                        However if the emotional stress is too strong we need more and more of this comfort in order to control it or keep it from showing up. This then creates an addiction to the chosen comfort that is very hard to break unless the problem that created the need in the first place is found, addressed and overcome. This habit we have of putting things in our mouth to cover up our feelings and needs is often the cause of problems in our relationships.                                                                                                              . Having a cigarette puts a 'smoke screen' over your emotions, drinking too much alcohol allows you to drift away from problems or to become violent, rather than discussing the problem.                                           Look at what you are putting in your mouth and why you need excess of this comfort. Many needs come from the first five years of a child's life when they are 'programmed' to accept the opinions of others who told them they were 'good', or 'bad' or 'stupid' etc. It is important to recognise the good qualities that you have and recognise that accepting the negative qualities you have been 'brainwashed' with through life are not necessarily true. Your real friends will be able to tell you the good thing they see in you.                       Unless the need for the comfort is addressed it will be very hard to overcome. A very good hypnotherapist can often help you to see where the problem started, this can help you to address it.   Astrology is also a very good tool to show you your past life attitudes and the tools you have this lifetime to grow and evolve.

Recognising a need and addressing it is so important. Remember that this is a habit that started when you were a baby and only had feelings to work with, not communication. As adults we need to recognise our feelings and be confident in commumicating our needs to others.

COLOUR PSYCHOLOGY

The Psychology of Colour is involved with our human response to different colours. Some we like, some we dislike. At different times in our lives we are attracted to different colours which relate to our emotional and physical needs at the time. Interest in Colour Psychology began in 1947 when Dr. Max Lucher devised a psychological test which used the four 'psychological primaries'. Clients were asked to choose the colours in order of preference. From these choices Dr. Luscher was able to find the client's psychological response and needs. Many other tests have been devised since then and it is amazing how accurately Colour can point to our emotional and physical needs. Think for a moment of THE colour which attracts you at this time. Not necessarily a colour you wear, but one which attracts your attention each time you see it. Like Yellow daffodills or a red car, or a blue sky or the green of the forest. The colour you love at the moment could be a shade (with black added) or a tint (with white added). Or a variation of the original 'hue' (pure colour}with the addition of another colour eg Red with a small amount of Yellow is Scarlet, or with a small amount of Brown is Russet. Variations in colours relate to variations in your emotional needs. So it is difficult to 'say' what colours you like. It important to see it or draw it. As each of us picks up colour vibrations from the cones in our eyes, each of us will see colours slightly differently. Take note of the satisfaction or upliftment you feel when you gaze upon this colour. We often 'love' one colour for months or years and suddenly replace it with another. Once you study the Psychology of Colour you can tap into your own and others needs. This in turn can allow you to understand your own needs and that of your family, friends and partners. Each colour has many different qualities. RED energy/passion/ can 'switch' you on. BLUE calm/peaceful, can 'switch' you off. YELLOW intellectual/joy. GREEN nature/healing PURPLE power/authority PINK love/soothing TURQUOISE communication from the heart. ORANGE relationships/social. What COLOUR do YOU need at the moment?