I am not a Catholic, or a Church of England or a Baptist. I was told I was a Prespiterian, but I could not write that down as I could never figure out how to spell it. My religious training was one visit to a Sunday School meeting. I saw my friends going to Sunday School and thought I might like to try it. I asked my mum and she said "go ahead, if you like it you can go, if not don't go". So I tried it and was not impressed and that was the end of my religious training.
Growing up I did not like all the rules and dogma I saw at Churches, but when a friend of mine finally got me to a Spiritualist Church and I saw their principles, specially Personal Responsibility I felt I had come home. This was helped by the fact that Marcia, who had been on the platform that night healed my stiff neck and in the next six weeks healed a rash on my legs that had been there for 20 years. The doctors said it was incurable. I thought " there really must be something in this Spiritual stuff" and I still think that twenty years later.
Easter now seems to be all about holidays and chocolate eggs. But really Jesus is the reason for the season. I have been writing lots of articles about the New Era we are living in now since the end of the Mayan Calendar in 2012. What has been reported about Jesus was that he was trying to get over the same message as we are getting again now Love and acceptance. Because he was the person who was at the beginning of the Piscean Age (the age of Sacrifice) Jesus brought this message to us through sacrifice. Now, we are entering into the Aquarian Age (the age of acceptance) this message is being brought to us by many beautiful people and many situations.
It is time now to follow Jesus's message of Love and acceptance in a new way. Not by sacrificing our own personality for ideas that have been handed down from the Piscean Age but to use the knowledge and progress that mankind has made over the years to look at life in a different way, appreciating the wonderful body that we have been given and the wonderful country we live in. We need to stop criticising and judging and start to really look at others. Just because other people and other countries have different ideas to us does not mean that they are wrong. Acceptance brings tolerance and those two things could stop many disagreements and heartaches and wars.
I would like to add to this something about my Mum. She was a kind lady, who thought that kindness was the very best characteristic anyone could have. She never raised her voice and always supported me and my sister and brothers to do the things that we loved to do. She was rather concerned about my interest in Spiritualism but accepted that this was who I was. I think that she was carrying out the teachings of Jesus although she never went to Church but was loved by all who knew her.
Saturday, 30 March 2013
Thursday, 28 March 2013
THE NODES OF THE MOON
Hundreds of years ago the Chinese knew that the Moon had North and South Nodes. They called them the Dragon's Head and the Dragon's Tail. Here in the West we have only started using this information in recent years.
The Nodes are created by the Moon cutting across the path of the Sun. Going upward is the North Node and going downward is the South Node.
Since learning about the Nodes I have found that I never start working on an Astrological Birth Chart without spending time examining the affect that the North and South Node have in the life of the person whose chart I am doing.
The South Node indicates things that the client wants to change in this lifetime. Attitudes and behavior patterns from past lives that they want to overcome or improve. Once a client has mastered these changes they can begin to use again strengths that had not been used to their full advantage in past lives.
The North Node indicates the attitudes and behavior that the client is working towards. This is always exactly the opposite of past life patterns so it is usually hard to do.
If planets are close to the North Node,(in the same sign) such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars or Venus this indicates that the person is getting very close to developing the qualities they want this lifetime as they have these qualities already in their life.
If planets are close to the South Node, (in the same sign) it us usually harder for a person to overcome past life attitudes as they still have similar behavior patterns.
Once the North and South Nodes have been examined it is time to look at the person's Chart to find planets and signs in the different houses that can help the client to be the best person they can be in this lifetime. That is always the aim of each lifetime, to improve on past lives and to develop the characteristics of love, tolerance and acceptance towards others. This can usually be done by experiencing many situations and gaining knowledge and understanding from your experiences. Most things in life are learned the hard way. But when we look back on these hard experiences we find that they have taught us things that we needed to know.
During our lives the Planets move through different constellations giving us the opportunity to work with the new energies that are beaming down on us. In our Astrological charts there are always planets and signs that can show us the way to our best development and as these planets move into different signs we can use this energy to develop ourselves to the best person we can be this lifetime.
These developments are happening to everyone whether they understand or are interested in Astrology. When we look back through our lives we can see how patterns and situations have changed and developed for us.
It is not what happens to us in life, it is how we handle the situation that gives us joy or sadness.
The Nodes are created by the Moon cutting across the path of the Sun. Going upward is the North Node and going downward is the South Node.
Since learning about the Nodes I have found that I never start working on an Astrological Birth Chart without spending time examining the affect that the North and South Node have in the life of the person whose chart I am doing.
The South Node indicates things that the client wants to change in this lifetime. Attitudes and behavior patterns from past lives that they want to overcome or improve. Once a client has mastered these changes they can begin to use again strengths that had not been used to their full advantage in past lives.
The North Node indicates the attitudes and behavior that the client is working towards. This is always exactly the opposite of past life patterns so it is usually hard to do.
If planets are close to the North Node,(in the same sign) such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars or Venus this indicates that the person is getting very close to developing the qualities they want this lifetime as they have these qualities already in their life.
If planets are close to the South Node, (in the same sign) it us usually harder for a person to overcome past life attitudes as they still have similar behavior patterns.
Once the North and South Nodes have been examined it is time to look at the person's Chart to find planets and signs in the different houses that can help the client to be the best person they can be in this lifetime. That is always the aim of each lifetime, to improve on past lives and to develop the characteristics of love, tolerance and acceptance towards others. This can usually be done by experiencing many situations and gaining knowledge and understanding from your experiences. Most things in life are learned the hard way. But when we look back on these hard experiences we find that they have taught us things that we needed to know.
During our lives the Planets move through different constellations giving us the opportunity to work with the new energies that are beaming down on us. In our Astrological charts there are always planets and signs that can show us the way to our best development and as these planets move into different signs we can use this energy to develop ourselves to the best person we can be this lifetime.
These developments are happening to everyone whether they understand or are interested in Astrology. When we look back through our lives we can see how patterns and situations have changed and developed for us.
It is not what happens to us in life, it is how we handle the situation that gives us joy or sadness.
Monday, 4 March 2013
NEW WORKSHOPS AND CHURCH PLATFORMS
I will be on the platform of the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, cnr. Swan and Queen Sts. off Darby on Sunday 15th February 2014 at 3 pm. Topic Healing. plus readings.
I am holding a Workshop on Auras, Chakras and Crystals on Saturday 28th February at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, from 10am to 5pm. Cost $60.00.
Workshop will cover, Measuring your Aura, How to enlarge your Aura, Chakra Colours for Healing, The NEW Chakras. Balancing the Aura with Crystal Pendulum (bring your own if you have one). Balancing the Aura with Kinesiology. Mending and polishing the Aura with Aura Soma.
If you wish to attend please put your name and phone number on the list at the Spiritualist Church or contact Shirley on (02) 40238406 to let me know if you are coming so that I can have sufficient notes for each person.
2014
I intend to hold a 12 week Colour Course next year 2015 commencing in March. This course will cover all aspects of Colour, Colour Psychology, Interior Decorating Colours, Clothing Colours, Chakra Colours, Healing with Colours and Crystals and lights. Chakra Balancing with Colour and Crystals.
Limited placements. If you wish to come please contact Shirley so that I can hold a place for you.
Cost $25. per week. Probably Monday, 10.30 to 12. 30.
I am available for a short 12 week Astrology Course if enough people contact me about it.
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I am also available for Astrology Charts. I will need your name, full birth name, date of Birth, time of Birth (if not known I can 'douse' it for you) and place of Birth, also where you live now in order to make you a progressed Chart showing where your Planets are now.
I can send your Chart to you or you can visit me at Mayfield West (near Newcastle) to have the Chart interpreted. It takes from one hour to one and a half hours usually. (sometimes longer) This can be put on a Cassette tape or a USB stick for you. Or you can tape it yourself on your mobile or tablet.
The chart Astrology/Numerology costs $100.00 If posted $110.00
You can contact me by phone (02)40238406 or shirleydarby@dodo.com.au
I am holding a Workshop on Auras, Chakras and Crystals on Saturday 28th February at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, from 10am to 5pm. Cost $60.00.
Workshop will cover, Measuring your Aura, How to enlarge your Aura, Chakra Colours for Healing, The NEW Chakras. Balancing the Aura with Crystal Pendulum (bring your own if you have one). Balancing the Aura with Kinesiology. Mending and polishing the Aura with Aura Soma.
If you wish to attend please put your name and phone number on the list at the Spiritualist Church or contact Shirley on (02) 40238406 to let me know if you are coming so that I can have sufficient notes for each person.
2014
I intend to hold a 12 week Colour Course next year 2015 commencing in March. This course will cover all aspects of Colour, Colour Psychology, Interior Decorating Colours, Clothing Colours, Chakra Colours, Healing with Colours and Crystals and lights. Chakra Balancing with Colour and Crystals.
Limited placements. If you wish to come please contact Shirley so that I can hold a place for you.
Cost $25. per week. Probably Monday, 10.30 to 12. 30.
I am available for a short 12 week Astrology Course if enough people contact me about it.
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I am also available for Astrology Charts. I will need your name, full birth name, date of Birth, time of Birth (if not known I can 'douse' it for you) and place of Birth, also where you live now in order to make you a progressed Chart showing where your Planets are now.
I can send your Chart to you or you can visit me at Mayfield West (near Newcastle) to have the Chart interpreted. It takes from one hour to one and a half hours usually. (sometimes longer) This can be put on a Cassette tape or a USB stick for you. Or you can tape it yourself on your mobile or tablet.
The chart Astrology/Numerology costs $100.00 If posted $110.00
You can contact me by phone (02)40238406 or shirleydarby@dodo.com.au
Saturday, 23 February 2013
LOVE AND MARRIAGE
FALLING IN LOVE IS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST REASON FOR MARRIAGE.
Falling in love is a time when we are totally involved with another. A time when we wish to be with them at all times. A time when we only see their wonderful traits and do not wish to see anything that will 'burst the bubble'. This is a time when you are worshipped and you worship the other.
THIS IS A SITUATION THAT IS DIFFICULT TO KEEP GOING FOR THE NEXT 40 OR 50 YEARS.
This has been the reason for the 'engagement' time. A time between falling in love and getting to see other characteristics in our partner. This is also a time when we should be looking at whether we want to spend the next 40 or 50 years with this person, thinking about where you will live, do you want children, will you both work, how will our families get along etc. So many girls now days spend this time planning a huge (expensive) wedding and The Dress!! This is all part of the fairytale...the day when they will be the centre of attention...the day when not only their future husband will look at them with adoration, but they will be admired by all those guests at the wedding.
Marriage was once necessary for women as they were not allowed to earn their own living and had to depend on a man to take care of them and their children.Without the modern conveniences we have now men needed a woman in their home to take care of them and the family.
The roles were clear cut. Women did not spend months or years planning the most expensive wedding they could think of, or the dress that would allow them to be the most beautiful woman in the world. They spent the time before marriage learning the skills that they would need to keep their marriage going well for the next 40 or 50 years. Each person knew their 'role' and although this did not necessarily make them happy they worked at their own jobs.
Now it is so easy to let go and finish a marriage when the fantasy has settled into everyday situations. This has created so many stressed women, men and children. So many unhappy people who have found themselves in a life with someone that the do not really know. Someone who does not understand their deepest values.
Naturally, there are happy marriages with people who are lucky enough to find a partner with the same values as themselves. This is the main thing that must be addressed. What are your values? Does your partner understand them? Do you understand your partner's values?
Marriage needs to have a firm foundation if it is to succeed. The reasons for marriage are not so importnt now as men and women can earn their own money and have their own car and homes. It is still good for children to have a secure environment with male and female energies to guide them.
Now that we are entering the Aquarian age of acceptance, and moving out of the Piscean age of sacrifice we need to look at our old traditions and see if we feel that they are right for the place we are in.
We are creating new traditions with the situations and world attitudes we are living in now.
Falling in love is a time when we are totally involved with another. A time when we wish to be with them at all times. A time when we only see their wonderful traits and do not wish to see anything that will 'burst the bubble'. This is a time when you are worshipped and you worship the other.
THIS IS A SITUATION THAT IS DIFFICULT TO KEEP GOING FOR THE NEXT 40 OR 50 YEARS.
This has been the reason for the 'engagement' time. A time between falling in love and getting to see other characteristics in our partner. This is also a time when we should be looking at whether we want to spend the next 40 or 50 years with this person, thinking about where you will live, do you want children, will you both work, how will our families get along etc. So many girls now days spend this time planning a huge (expensive) wedding and The Dress!! This is all part of the fairytale...the day when they will be the centre of attention...the day when not only their future husband will look at them with adoration, but they will be admired by all those guests at the wedding.
Marriage was once necessary for women as they were not allowed to earn their own living and had to depend on a man to take care of them and their children.Without the modern conveniences we have now men needed a woman in their home to take care of them and the family.
The roles were clear cut. Women did not spend months or years planning the most expensive wedding they could think of, or the dress that would allow them to be the most beautiful woman in the world. They spent the time before marriage learning the skills that they would need to keep their marriage going well for the next 40 or 50 years. Each person knew their 'role' and although this did not necessarily make them happy they worked at their own jobs.
Now it is so easy to let go and finish a marriage when the fantasy has settled into everyday situations. This has created so many stressed women, men and children. So many unhappy people who have found themselves in a life with someone that the do not really know. Someone who does not understand their deepest values.
Naturally, there are happy marriages with people who are lucky enough to find a partner with the same values as themselves. This is the main thing that must be addressed. What are your values? Does your partner understand them? Do you understand your partner's values?
Marriage needs to have a firm foundation if it is to succeed. The reasons for marriage are not so importnt now as men and women can earn their own money and have their own car and homes. It is still good for children to have a secure environment with male and female energies to guide them.
Now that we are entering the Aquarian age of acceptance, and moving out of the Piscean age of sacrifice we need to look at our old traditions and see if we feel that they are right for the place we are in.
We are creating new traditions with the situations and world attitudes we are living in now.
Tuesday, 19 February 2013
VALUES
Recently, during my meditation three Blue Angels appeared. They were holding a largebook titled VALUES. It was a very large book. The Angel in the middle held the book while the other two Angels supported the outspread pages.
As my main interest at the moment is about relationship it occured to me how important each person's values were in their relationship to each other. The book was showing me a page for each person with a list of the things that they valued. There was a photo of each person beside their values.
I asked the other members of my meditation group if they were willing to fill in a page of their values in order to put in a book so that others might be able to look at it and compare their own values.
In the list was, name, astrological sign, age, married, un married, nationality, religion. Also, what value do you place on...money, your family, marriage, sex, your job or career, your home, your friends, spirituality, your sport, your hobby, your entertainment, your politics?
What a list. Just one of those subjects can disrupt a relationship. Look at all the areas in your life where you can have disagreements or differences of opinions.
Many of our values are in place by the time we are five years old. Until children are five they are only obtaining their values by their emotions, not their mental capacities. Strong family values of nationality, religion and home soak into a young child. These values can cause problems for them at a later stage in their lives as an ingrained attitude without them realising that they have the ability to look at thing differently now.
As we grow we develop our own ideas and attitudes through our basic nature (astrological sign) and inhereted family characteristics as well as the many different friends we meet and the many different situations we find ourselves in. We may become dedicated to a particular sport or form or entertainment such as rock music or opera. We may agree or disagree with our family's politics. We may have rowdy friends or intellectual friends.
During our growing up time we form ideas about what we feel is attractive in the opposite sex. We often head for that type of person without realising that all the other values are part of us and part of them.
Part of our western idea of 'falling in love' is actually 'falling in love' with something the other person has that we would like to have, such as popularity, confidence, softness or hardness. In the initial 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship while we are being adored and can do no wrong many values in the other person are overlooked. However, once the 'romance' has settled down a little different values raise their ugly head and need to be addressed. It takes real love to work through the problems that different values present.
Spiritual values of love, acceptance and the knowledge that we are all here on the Earth School learning about how we can develop the best of ourselves can often help couples to look at their differences in a kinder way. Realising that none of us are perfect and we are all learning.
If we are lucky enough to meet someone who has similar values and is tolerant of different values we should be extremely grateful and do our best to help others to appreciate their own values too.
As my main interest at the moment is about relationship it occured to me how important each person's values were in their relationship to each other. The book was showing me a page for each person with a list of the things that they valued. There was a photo of each person beside their values.
I asked the other members of my meditation group if they were willing to fill in a page of their values in order to put in a book so that others might be able to look at it and compare their own values.
In the list was, name, astrological sign, age, married, un married, nationality, religion. Also, what value do you place on...money, your family, marriage, sex, your job or career, your home, your friends, spirituality, your sport, your hobby, your entertainment, your politics?
What a list. Just one of those subjects can disrupt a relationship. Look at all the areas in your life where you can have disagreements or differences of opinions.
Many of our values are in place by the time we are five years old. Until children are five they are only obtaining their values by their emotions, not their mental capacities. Strong family values of nationality, religion and home soak into a young child. These values can cause problems for them at a later stage in their lives as an ingrained attitude without them realising that they have the ability to look at thing differently now.
As we grow we develop our own ideas and attitudes through our basic nature (astrological sign) and inhereted family characteristics as well as the many different friends we meet and the many different situations we find ourselves in. We may become dedicated to a particular sport or form or entertainment such as rock music or opera. We may agree or disagree with our family's politics. We may have rowdy friends or intellectual friends.
During our growing up time we form ideas about what we feel is attractive in the opposite sex. We often head for that type of person without realising that all the other values are part of us and part of them.
Part of our western idea of 'falling in love' is actually 'falling in love' with something the other person has that we would like to have, such as popularity, confidence, softness or hardness. In the initial 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship while we are being adored and can do no wrong many values in the other person are overlooked. However, once the 'romance' has settled down a little different values raise their ugly head and need to be addressed. It takes real love to work through the problems that different values present.
Spiritual values of love, acceptance and the knowledge that we are all here on the Earth School learning about how we can develop the best of ourselves can often help couples to look at their differences in a kinder way. Realising that none of us are perfect and we are all learning.
If we are lucky enough to meet someone who has similar values and is tolerant of different values we should be extremely grateful and do our best to help others to appreciate their own values too.
Friday, 18 January 2013
WHY FEAR DEATH?
The most important message that a Spiritualist Church wants to give to people is that there IS a life after death.
I have been involved with Spiritualist Churches for thirty years and have heard over and over again proof that people who have passed over are still watching their loved ones and are in a much happier state than when they were here on earth. I have heard mediums connecting with those who have passed over and giving information that could not be falsified to people attending churches or meetings.
If we hear this information time after time why should we be frightend of dying? We often hear from those who were very ill when they passed over that they are fine and happy and well now. So if we fear dying we have had proof that an ill body is healed when we get 'home'.
I had only been going to a Spiritual Church in Enmore/Sydney for a short while when I had an experience that gave me proof of being watched by our spiritual family. I was studying Astrology and my teacher said that I must be like my fathers side of the family because of a certain placement in my chart. I said "no, I am more like my mother's side of the family". I did not think of it again, but a few weeks later a medium who was giving out messages from the platform of the Church said to me. "Shirl, there is an old fashioned man here beside me, he has a bushy mustache and is dressed in an 1800's style. He is VERY angry with you and tells me that he will not leave until you realise that you are like your father's side of the family. Because I had forgotten about the incident in my Astrology class I did not understand what she was talking about. It was on my way home in the car that I realised that one of my ancestors had been watching me and was not happy with my attitude.
That was one of the first things that convinced me of life after death and I have had thirty years of hearing proof to members of the meetings I have attended. I have also read many books that explain different aspects of the other side.
Michael Newton has written two books that I think are a wonderful help to understand what happens.
His first book Journey of the Soul explains that when we arrive in Heaven we go through a process of looking at our life and deciding what we need to learn next. He says that we all have our own Soul Group of about 12 to 20 people with whom we spend lives. Some of the group incarnate and some stay behind to watch and help. These people are the ones we are most connected to each lifetime. We swap roles so that each of us can learn to be a man or woman, mother or father, child or teacher etc. Usually your really close people this lifetime are part of your soul group, mother, father, brothers and sisters,lover, special friends that you feel close to. Apparently there is an 'outer' group of people who pop into our lives to help us or to set us off on different journeys. Our soul group however needs to experience all experiences and feelings so that they can all be totally evolved. Until each member of our group is totally evolved the group cannot move on. This is why we often fees so stressed if one of our very close people is not working to their full potential and we want to help them but often cannot. The other thing that he says in the book is that only part of our soul's energy comes to earth each time we incarnate. The rest stays there so that part of all of our soul group is there at all times. This means that when we die we will be able to join members of our true soul group even if they are still here on earth. He says also that sometimes souls that are about to incarnate decide not to take too much energy with them. Such souls, he says, often find the earth plane much harder to cope with than they expected and often turn to drink or drugs to cope.
This is just one of the books I have read concerning our journey to the other side. He has a following book called Destiny of Souls that is more involved with deciding what we are to do and who we are to do it with next time we decide to come back to School on Earth.
A very old book that gave more answers was A Soul's Journey by Peter Richelieu. I read that many years ago and found it had other ideas to learn about.
We know that we are Spirit encased in a physical body ( I call it the vehicle) to travel through our current life in order to learn what WE chose to learn this time. When we have learned it then it is time to go. Time to have a vacation from this School until we decide to try again.
I have been involved with Spiritualist Churches for thirty years and have heard over and over again proof that people who have passed over are still watching their loved ones and are in a much happier state than when they were here on earth. I have heard mediums connecting with those who have passed over and giving information that could not be falsified to people attending churches or meetings.
If we hear this information time after time why should we be frightend of dying? We often hear from those who were very ill when they passed over that they are fine and happy and well now. So if we fear dying we have had proof that an ill body is healed when we get 'home'.
I had only been going to a Spiritual Church in Enmore/Sydney for a short while when I had an experience that gave me proof of being watched by our spiritual family. I was studying Astrology and my teacher said that I must be like my fathers side of the family because of a certain placement in my chart. I said "no, I am more like my mother's side of the family". I did not think of it again, but a few weeks later a medium who was giving out messages from the platform of the Church said to me. "Shirl, there is an old fashioned man here beside me, he has a bushy mustache and is dressed in an 1800's style. He is VERY angry with you and tells me that he will not leave until you realise that you are like your father's side of the family. Because I had forgotten about the incident in my Astrology class I did not understand what she was talking about. It was on my way home in the car that I realised that one of my ancestors had been watching me and was not happy with my attitude.
That was one of the first things that convinced me of life after death and I have had thirty years of hearing proof to members of the meetings I have attended. I have also read many books that explain different aspects of the other side.
Michael Newton has written two books that I think are a wonderful help to understand what happens.
His first book Journey of the Soul explains that when we arrive in Heaven we go through a process of looking at our life and deciding what we need to learn next. He says that we all have our own Soul Group of about 12 to 20 people with whom we spend lives. Some of the group incarnate and some stay behind to watch and help. These people are the ones we are most connected to each lifetime. We swap roles so that each of us can learn to be a man or woman, mother or father, child or teacher etc. Usually your really close people this lifetime are part of your soul group, mother, father, brothers and sisters,lover, special friends that you feel close to. Apparently there is an 'outer' group of people who pop into our lives to help us or to set us off on different journeys. Our soul group however needs to experience all experiences and feelings so that they can all be totally evolved. Until each member of our group is totally evolved the group cannot move on. This is why we often fees so stressed if one of our very close people is not working to their full potential and we want to help them but often cannot. The other thing that he says in the book is that only part of our soul's energy comes to earth each time we incarnate. The rest stays there so that part of all of our soul group is there at all times. This means that when we die we will be able to join members of our true soul group even if they are still here on earth. He says also that sometimes souls that are about to incarnate decide not to take too much energy with them. Such souls, he says, often find the earth plane much harder to cope with than they expected and often turn to drink or drugs to cope.
This is just one of the books I have read concerning our journey to the other side. He has a following book called Destiny of Souls that is more involved with deciding what we are to do and who we are to do it with next time we decide to come back to School on Earth.
A very old book that gave more answers was A Soul's Journey by Peter Richelieu. I read that many years ago and found it had other ideas to learn about.
We know that we are Spirit encased in a physical body ( I call it the vehicle) to travel through our current life in order to learn what WE chose to learn this time. When we have learned it then it is time to go. Time to have a vacation from this School until we decide to try again.
Sunday, 13 January 2013
ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
I am now more than half way through writing my new book on Relationships. Each time I read through it to edit it I get more information.
People seem to always connect the word Relatlionship with love or partner or sex. But by the time we get to fall in love, have a partner and are involved with sex we have been having Relationships with people ever since we were born. All these Relationships have had an affect on how we are experiencing our current Relationships with partners, friends, children, parents, bosses, teachers, students etc.
When someone says to you "I know how you feel"...they dont! They may think they know how you feel but they can only understand you and your needs through their own life character, Sun sign and experiences.
Your reactions in your current Relationships start as a baby. Were you very much loved? Were your needs neglected?. Each Astrological sign has its own way of relating to others so an Air sign parent who expresses themselves by talking and analysing situations may not understand the needs of a Water sign baby who needs more cuddles than conversation. I Recently I wrote an article in my Blog about The Mouth. It seems to be a human reaction to stop any signs of distress in another by putting something in their mouth. When a baby shows distress something is usually put into their mouth, a breast, a dummy, a bottle and later on a sweet. This can start off a relationship with putting something into the mouth when later in life things (such as Relationships) become distressing.
This does not have to be a Relationship with a lover or partner, it can be with the boss whom you feel is putting too much pressure on you. You can then turn to the Relationship with your friend the cigarette who does not ask questions, who immediately soothes you and gives you something to put in your mouth.
How many times do we know of or see in the movies someone who has just had their heart broken dash off to a bar and put lots of alchol into their mouths.
During your life you have had to deal with your parents, brothers and sisters, school mates, teachers, bosses etc. You have learned from all of these situations how to handle them in your own way. Certain attitudes and even certain words can have an affect on you that they do not have on others. These are the parts of your nature that have to deal with the nature of others who have all had their own people to deal with and their own experiences through life.
When we start a romantic relationship with another we are wanting someone in our life who can fill in the parts of us that we would love to have. We can see strength in another that we wish for, we can see softness in another that we wish for. This is wonderful and we often gain the strengths from the other that we need.
Quite often when we gain these strengths the partner does not seem so wonderful and romance often fades away
The end of the Mayan calendar brought the world to the end of an ERA. We now have to look at our conditioned way of thinking and the expectations your family, country, nationality, religion etc. have put upon you and work on yourself in order to let go of all these conditions and exectations and be true to yourself to appreciate the wonderful person that you are so that you can appreciate the wonderful qualities of your partners, friends and family.
People seem to always connect the word Relatlionship with love or partner or sex. But by the time we get to fall in love, have a partner and are involved with sex we have been having Relationships with people ever since we were born. All these Relationships have had an affect on how we are experiencing our current Relationships with partners, friends, children, parents, bosses, teachers, students etc.
When someone says to you "I know how you feel"...they dont! They may think they know how you feel but they can only understand you and your needs through their own life character, Sun sign and experiences.
Your reactions in your current Relationships start as a baby. Were you very much loved? Were your needs neglected?. Each Astrological sign has its own way of relating to others so an Air sign parent who expresses themselves by talking and analysing situations may not understand the needs of a Water sign baby who needs more cuddles than conversation. I Recently I wrote an article in my Blog about The Mouth. It seems to be a human reaction to stop any signs of distress in another by putting something in their mouth. When a baby shows distress something is usually put into their mouth, a breast, a dummy, a bottle and later on a sweet. This can start off a relationship with putting something into the mouth when later in life things (such as Relationships) become distressing.
This does not have to be a Relationship with a lover or partner, it can be with the boss whom you feel is putting too much pressure on you. You can then turn to the Relationship with your friend the cigarette who does not ask questions, who immediately soothes you and gives you something to put in your mouth.
How many times do we know of or see in the movies someone who has just had their heart broken dash off to a bar and put lots of alchol into their mouths.
During your life you have had to deal with your parents, brothers and sisters, school mates, teachers, bosses etc. You have learned from all of these situations how to handle them in your own way. Certain attitudes and even certain words can have an affect on you that they do not have on others. These are the parts of your nature that have to deal with the nature of others who have all had their own people to deal with and their own experiences through life.
When we start a romantic relationship with another we are wanting someone in our life who can fill in the parts of us that we would love to have. We can see strength in another that we wish for, we can see softness in another that we wish for. This is wonderful and we often gain the strengths from the other that we need.
Quite often when we gain these strengths the partner does not seem so wonderful and romance often fades away
The end of the Mayan calendar brought the world to the end of an ERA. We now have to look at our conditioned way of thinking and the expectations your family, country, nationality, religion etc. have put upon you and work on yourself in order to let go of all these conditions and exectations and be true to yourself to appreciate the wonderful person that you are so that you can appreciate the wonderful qualities of your partners, friends and family.
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