ONE DAY

One day recently I realised that all of the information I was receiving and feeling passionate about was about Relationships..  I see Astrology as a major factor in the way we relate to others so I was astounded to receive on my computer an article from a well known American Astrologer writing about Astrology and Relationships.  His words and ideas were very much like the words and ideas I had just written about on my Blog.

When something needs to be brought to the attention of people it seems that the idea is sent out by the Universe and picked up by various people who suddenly get the urge to talk about it.  Many inventions have been created at the same time around the world.  often causing arguments as to who thought of it first.   This does not matter as it must have been the right time for that invention to be made available to the public.

Day after day I have been receiving articles about this important year 2012.  I have read so many articles about how important it is to change our old values and accept others for their values.
Relationships with all the people you have lived with during your life need to be seen in a different way if humanity is to grow and be able to handle the new energies entering the Planet now.
We need to understand that every person is unique.  We all came back here to School Earth in order to learn and grow to our full potential.   Every person has brought with them a map of their personality and direction for this life in the form of their Astrology Birth Chart.   So it is important for all of us to recognise the needs of others just as we recognise our own need.
Each life has a plan.  Each person is part of a soul group and has come here to play their role with this group.  Your partner this life could have been your mother or child in another existence.  You both have things to learn from the other so acceptance of their personality and behaviour is required.  A soul group is about 12 people who swap roles each lifetime to learn whatever is needed for their growth.  This group cannot finish their comings and goings to the Earth until all of the group has evolved.  This is why we often feel so stressed when someone close to us, partner, mother, father, child or friend does not seem to be trying to evolve.  This of course is our way of thinking.  The person we are upset with is probably growing in their own way and must go through certain situations before they decide to change.
Because Planets move all the time through the constellations they influence all of us in different ways.         We may suddenly have a need to do something entirely different to anything we have done before.           This will shock those around us unless they understand that this is a perfectly normal situation and that they too have probably changed some of their ideas and expect others to accept them.
The lack of understanding about others close to us can also be applied to others in other religions, countries or colour of their skin.
One day has been coming for a long time.  This year 2012 has been predicted for thousands of years in many countries as a year when there are to be great changes.
Changes start with each person.  If every person in the world (particularly those who run countries) changed their attitudes from war to peace the world could finally be the beautiful place it was intended to be. 

RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS..

Just think of the times in your life when you were crushed, devastated, felt bad,or useless.    What was the cause?  Relationships.  Of all the happenings that can occur in your life relationships are the things that can affect us the most.   The happiest times in our lives can also be attribted to our relationships.
A relationship does not have to be a romantic one.   Think of the relationship you had with your mother, your father, your brothers and sisters.  What about when you had to leave the family and go off into the world of schooling, and then have to go on to the next level of schooling to work out your future?
This was the start of your attitude in any relationship you have had in your life.
Were you made to feel important?, clever? good looking? or were you made to feel stupid, dull,silly or weak? 
We often relate to our friends and lovers as we did to our family or our growing up 'School experiences   The major influence in our personalities is contained in our Astrology Birth Chart.  Your basic personality, way of loving and speaking is shown there.  Attitudes and beliefs from past lives also show up in this chart.  Your partner, friend, child or parent has their own personality from birth                                                   Do you know why a baby needs love and cuddles?  Because love makes you feel safe.
This is why orphan babies who were loved and cuddled survived and the ones who were left alone in their cots became sick and often died.


What we are looking for in any relationship is to be loved and feel safe. This is why people who are 'in love' or think they are 'in love' declare that they will always be there and that they will always be the same and love you in the same way.
This of course is very unlikely and almost impossible.   From the moment we are born we are under the influence of various Planets that are moving and as they move our needs and wants move also.  The object of our affection also is influenced by changes in life as their Planets move.   Our progressed Astrological chart when we are grown up is very different to the chart we have when we are born.
There is an old saying 'the only thing constant is change'.   How many times do you hear people say 'if I knew then what I know now things would have been different"
We can only deal with life with the stage of development we are at and what influences have been presented to us.   Much of the 'romantic' information young people gain from TV, movies and songs sounds good but is often unrealistic when we try to live like that in this world.  We are trained to think that in order to be happy we must be the only one in our partner's life.   They must think about us and never look at another as we are so important to them.   We are given the idea in so many songs that no other influence will come into our partner's lifes, that they will love and worship us to the exclusion of others.   And that we have a right to be annoyed if they show any interest in another person or another interest      

Each time a Planet moves into another constellation it can bring a new energy or interest into our lives.  Each constellation (Star sign)is very different to the previous one.   This is all part of our development and what makes us so special.          
There are the few lucky ones who found the special person who was made for them or who came back to be with them in this lifetime who can manage to go along with all the changes in their partners.  However even these wonderful situations contain lessons to be learned by both parties (and their families) or they would not have had to come back here to learn or teach.

Relationships need to be experienced in a different way now that we are entering the Aquarian Age.   There is a need to understand the needs of others and to realise that each person has many different abilities and needs and that they are learning and growing just as you are.                                                      The Bible said it all...
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

I have been an Astrologer for over 40 years. I studied with a man who taught us the Spiritual Aspects of Astrology and the importance of understanding what made you 'tick' and the purpose of your time here in this lifetime.                                                                                                                                               

 During my many years of working with people and helping them to understand themselves through Astrology I have had couples come to me to help them to understand their differences.                          

Understanding and accepting others is a key factor in moving into the Aquarian Age                                  All confrontations, personal, religious and countries are all based in the idea that I am right, you are wrong, My way is best, or the only way, your way is wrong. When this happens in a personal situation it is extremely helpful to have an Astrological Birth chart made for each person and be able to show each one why they have certain attitudes that are different to the other. Once each person can see that the other person has planetry patterns that make them think a certain way it is easier to understand their behaviour.

The word relationships seems to be more important than ever now as we are going into a new time of helping and undersanding each other. This is different to the old Piscean way of sacrifice and following whatever has been taught to them.                                                                                                              

I am available for Relationship Counselling for lovers, parents and children, friends etc. I will create a Birth chart for each person and spend time with you both showing you the reasons that you find it difficult to communicate and also suggest ways in which you can work together and accept the others needs. You can come and have a consultation with me at my home in Mayfield West (Newcastle) or I can do charts for you and do a reading for you on a USB stick.   You can contact me on my e mail address shirleydarby@dodo.com.au or by phone (02)40238406.

THE MOUTH

The first part of their anatomy that babies get pleasure from is their mouth. Every new object is experienced there. They may also gain a sense of comfort and security from doing this. From the moment we are born every time we show distress something is put in our mouth to quiet and comfort us. We are trained very early not to accept distress and not to distress others with our emotional needs. When we show early signs of distress we have either a bottle or a breast put in our mouths, then a dummy....anything to keep us from distressing others with our noise. After that it is food then sweets, somethimes the thumb, and as we grow it is a 'nice' cup of tea, coffee, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs etc. Whenever we need comfort we put something in our mouths to stop us from expressing what we feel. This often covers up our real feelings and stops us saying just what it is that upsets us in order to be more acceptable to others. Joining with others, eating lots of food or drinking lots of alcohol or even standing around with friends having a smoke can give a feeling of acceptance and comfort.                                                                                                                        However if the emotional stress is too strong we need more and more of this comfort in order to control it or keep it from showing up. This then creates an addiction to the chosen comfort that is very hard to break unless the problem that created the need in the first place is found, addressed and overcome. This habit we have of putting things in our mouth to cover up our feelings and needs is often the cause of problems in our relationships.                                                                                                              . Having a cigarette puts a 'smoke screen' over your emotions, drinking too much alcohol allows you to drift away from problems or to become violent, rather than discussing the problem.                                           Look at what you are putting in your mouth and why you need excess of this comfort. Many needs come from the first five years of a child's life when they are 'programmed' to accept the opinions of others who told them they were 'good', or 'bad' or 'stupid' etc. It is important to recognise the good qualities that you have and recognise that accepting the negative qualities you have been 'brainwashed' with through life are not necessarily true. Your real friends will be able to tell you the good thing they see in you.                       Unless the need for the comfort is addressed it will be very hard to overcome. A very good hypnotherapist can often help you to see where the problem started, this can help you to address it.   Astrology is also a very good tool to show you your past life attitudes and the tools you have this lifetime to grow and evolve.

Recognising a need and addressing it is so important. Remember that this is a habit that started when you were a baby and only had feelings to work with, not communication. As adults we need to recognise our feelings and be confident in commumicating our needs to others.

COLOUR PSYCHOLOGY

The Psychology of Colour is involved with our human response to different colours. Some we like, some we dislike. At different times in our lives we are attracted to different colours which relate to our emotional and physical needs at the time. Interest in Colour Psychology began in 1947 when Dr. Max Lucher devised a psychological test which used the four 'psychological primaries'. Clients were asked to choose the colours in order of preference. From these choices Dr. Luscher was able to find the client's psychological response and needs. Many other tests have been devised since then and it is amazing how accurately Colour can point to our emotional and physical needs. Think for a moment of THE colour which attracts you at this time. Not necessarily a colour you wear, but one which attracts your attention each time you see it. Like Yellow daffodills or a red car, or a blue sky or the green of the forest. The colour you love at the moment could be a shade (with black added) or a tint (with white added). Or a variation of the original 'hue' (pure colour}with the addition of another colour eg Red with a small amount of Yellow is Scarlet, or with a small amount of Brown is Russet. Variations in colours relate to variations in your emotional needs. So it is difficult to 'say' what colours you like. It important to see it or draw it. As each of us picks up colour vibrations from the cones in our eyes, each of us will see colours slightly differently. Take note of the satisfaction or upliftment you feel when you gaze upon this colour. We often 'love' one colour for months or years and suddenly replace it with another. Once you study the Psychology of Colour you can tap into your own and others needs. This in turn can allow you to understand your own needs and that of your family, friends and partners. Each colour has many different qualities. RED energy/passion/ can 'switch' you on. BLUE calm/peaceful, can 'switch' you off. YELLOW intellectual/joy. GREEN nature/healing PURPLE power/authority PINK love/soothing TURQUOISE communication from the heart. ORANGE relationships/social. What COLOUR do YOU need at the moment?

WE KNOW WHO WE ARE BEFORE BIRTH

Recently we had a wonderful Palmist give us a talk at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church. She had a wealth of knowledge and everyone learned something about themselves. I have studied Palmistry on my own for several years so it was good to hear the way she put all these interesting facts together. However I was thrilled to hear her say that the lines on a baby's hands were formed five months before the baby was born! That information confirmed my Astrological belief that our life, personality and direction were all in place before we are born. So many people blame their parents, their circumstances etc for the problems in their life, but do not recognise that we came back to this School on earth to correct things about ourselves by experiencing situations. In order to accept others and other situations we allow ourselves to go through things that are not pleasent for us. There is no way that we can evolve if we hang on to ideas and attitudes that make us feel superior to others. We choose to come back to the life we are to live. We choose the parents that will push us one way or the other in order to grow. If we have to learn tolerance and kindness we can have parents that are tolerant and kind, or parents that are not. depending on the lessons we have to learn. All of our life experiences teach us something. We usually do not learn much from all the NICE things. We learn most from the harsh or difficult things. If we grow and develop and learn tolerance and understanding from the difficult things in life we are evolving. I always feel that they must have a magnificent computer on the other side. When I look at a person's Astrological or Numerological chart I can see al the opportunities we have through life when Planets move from their original position in a chart to the next Sign. This gives us the opportunity to work with a new element in our lives in order to grow. The same thing happens in a Numerological chart. We move into the numbers of different cycles and peaks through life in order to have the opportunity to work with a different vibration. These Planetry moves and Numerological moves often work together in order for us to grow to our highest potential. We are all blessed with at least one Guardian Angel called our Doorkeeper. This guardian know what we are here for and directs us (or pushes us) into the situations that will teach us what we need to learn. During our lifetime we are often joined by other Guides who can help us learn particular lessons. So we do come here to the Earth Plane in order to learn and grow and evolve and if we watch for the signs that these Guiding Angels offer us we can grow to the fullest potential of this life.

GRATITUDE, PATIENCE and DETACHMENT.

These three qualities can help you to live a happier, more peaceful life. Gratitude and patience people understand. But detachment seems to most people to be selfish. Our society trains us to think that we must be 'involved' with all the people and situations we are connected to. We are bombarded by television and radio with all the horrors of the world. Our Chakras and our Auras are constantly taking in a huge amount of stress. The body does not know that it is not our stress and will create defences (sickness) to protect us from it. Violent movies can also give us stress symptoms and headaches etc. Taking this violence into the Aura has the same affect on the body as taking in bad food that can make you sick. All the major changes in the Planets and energy fields surrounding the earth now in this beginning of the Aquarian Age are aimed at helping us to evolve and to let go of the training we have had over the centuries. Naturally we feel sorrow watching dreadful things happening all over the world, but we need to learn to detach ourselves from situations that we can do nothing about. If you want to do something about the terrible things you witness send some money to a poor country or get involved with a humanitarian group such as World Vision, Red Cross etc. As spiritual beings we can send love and healing to those in dire situations but we need to realise that EVERYTHING is working together to move the planet forward into new energies. We need to practice this detachment on our families, lovers and friends. We are all individual beings with a built in personality and hundreds of incidents in our lives that have shaped us into the person we are now. Loving with detatchments means that you love the person as they are and learn to 'detach' your own conditioned way of thinking and behaving. This is where gratitude and patience need to be learned. Gratitude for all those people in our lives who love and help us. Gratitude for the wonderful country we live in and all the help we recieve. Personally I feel that the MOST important thing one can be grateful for is when you realise that you are a Spiritual being learning lessons in a physical body. The fact that we are provided with a doorkeeper to help us find our direction for this life and that many other wonderful spirit guides come along to help us on our journey is really something to be grateful for. Patience seems to be the hardest lesson to learn. Spiritually oriented people especially find this hard as they KNOW that there is so much more to learn and so much more work to develop themselves into the best person they can be. We want to be that NOW. However we continue to learn each day of our lives and so should be grateful for each thing that we do learn.