Just think of the times in your life when you were crushed, devastated, felt bad,or useless. What was the cause? Relationships. Of all the happenings that can occur in your life relationships are the things that can affect us the most. The happiest times in our lives can also be attribted to our relationships.
A relationship does not have to be a romantic one. Think of the relationship you had with your mother, your father, your brothers and sisters. What about when you had to leave the family and go off into the world of schooling, and then have to go on to the next level of schooling to work out your future?
This was the start of your attitude in any relationship you have had in your life.
Were you made to feel important?, clever? good looking? or were you made to feel stupid, dull,silly or weak?
We often relate to our friends and lovers as we did to our family or our growing up 'School experiences The major influence in our personalities is contained in our Astrology Birth Chart. Your basic personality, way of loving and speaking is shown there. Attitudes and beliefs from past lives also show up in this chart. Your partner, friend, child or parent has their own personality from birth Do you know why a baby needs love and cuddles? Because love makes you feel safe.
This is why orphan babies who were loved and cuddled survived and the ones who were left alone in their cots became sick and often died.
What we are looking for in any relationship is to be loved and feel safe. This is why people who are 'in love' or think they are 'in love' declare that they will always be there and that they will always be the same and love you in the same way.
This of course is very unlikely and almost impossible. From the moment we are born we are under the influence of various Planets that are moving and as they move our needs and wants move also. The object of our affection also is influenced by changes in life as their Planets move. Our progressed Astrological chart when we are grown up is very different to the chart we have when we are born.
There is an old saying 'the only thing constant is change'. How many times do you hear people say 'if I knew then what I know now things would have been different"
We can only deal with life with the stage of development we are at and what influences have been presented to us. Much of the 'romantic' information young people gain from TV, movies and songs sounds good but is often unrealistic when we try to live like that in this world. We are trained to think that in order to be happy we must be the only one in our partner's life. They must think about us and never look at another as we are so important to them. We are given the idea in so many songs that no other influence will come into our partner's lifes, that they will love and worship us to the exclusion of others. And that we have a right to be annoyed if they show any interest in another person or another interest
Each time a Planet moves into another constellation it can bring a new energy or interest into our lives. Each constellation (Star sign)is very different to the previous one. This is all part of our development and what makes us so special.
There are the few lucky ones who found the special person who was made for them or who came back to be with them in this lifetime who can manage to go along with all the changes in their partners. However even these wonderful situations contain lessons to be learned by both parties (and their families) or they would not have had to come back here to learn or teach.
Relationships need to be experienced in a different way now that we are entering the Aquarian Age. There is a need to understand the needs of others and to realise that each person has many different abilities and needs and that they are learning and growing just as you are. The Bible said it all...
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.