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Tuesday, 17 March 2015

What is LOVE?

LOVE...the most mis-used word in the English language!
Why is it that something that should be so beautiful and comforting is often the source of so much pain and distress?  In movies or books the heroine is often crying over 'love' or the hero is smoking and drinking and breaking down because of his problems with 'love'.   The happy, joyous beginning of any movie or book is usually about one quarter of the time.  The rest is spent in stress until the last few minutes when they are happy once again!     Unfortunately movies and books have created the idea that if someone 'loves' you they must only see and adore you.    How many movies do you see where the heroine or hero is broken hearted because 'their' loved one has spent some time with, or even 'looked' at another person?
 So many people use this word like a sword or hammer.  "If you love me you will do this" or " but I love you so you should do things my way"
If you really love someone you accept them for who they are and do not try to change them.  This will allow them to love you as you are and you can work through the changes that life brings together. .
When I was studying Colour Therapy my teacher, who was a Russian Colour Psychologist told us that in France they have several different words for the different ways you can use the word love.   In the English language we have only one so the word is used for many different situations.   The way we might use it is for  'love of God' or 'sexual love' or 'love of a parent for their children'.  'Love of nature' can cause a person to become a vegetarian.  Love of work or power can cause a person to lose the softness and caring of love and become hard or ruthless (the word ruth means love).
Our Colour Therapy teacher also said that each different way of expressing love has its own colour!   Sexual love is seen as Bright Red, and when it wants to overpower the other person it is seen as Dark Red.   Love of God is seen as Violet or Gold.    Love of sports, yellow.   Love of chocolate, Purple, love of sleeping in Strong Pink, love of child or family Light Pink.    If you allow yourself to be 'used' or 'pushed around' by one who says they love you the colour would be 'kick me Pink'  This is the palest of Pinks and is seen on very vulnerable people who accept punishment or very young babies who need protection as they are so vulnerable.
Every Astrological Sign has their own way of loving.   Aries need to take charge and protect those they love. Taurus, being a very physical/sensual sign (ruled by Venus) needs comfort and closeness and loyalty from those they love.   Gemini is a light/communicating sign.  They need someone who they can talk to and have fun.   Cancer (the sign of nurturing) loves by mothering their partner.  Leo, (royalty) needs to show love in a very dramatic way and expects admiration from those they love.   Virgo (the sign of work and service) will want to make sure his/her partner or family are looked after, kept safe (and clean).  Libra (this is the MOST romantic sign.  Libra's need a partner to balance their life (sign of the scales) they are also ruled by Venus and have a great need to have a 'nice' life and have everyone they love have a 'nice' life too.  Scorpio is considered the most sexual of the signs.  This is because of their need for intimacy and closeness with those they love.  Capricorn loves to do the best they can in any situation.  For those they love they will try to provide for them a beautiful home or a beautiful bunch of flowers if that is all they can afford.    Aquarians love 'the world'.  The person they love might not understand how much they do love them as they usually spend most of their time with friends or humanitarian issues (they do show their love for friends and humanitarian issues)   Pisces. (the softest sign/ the talking sign of the water signs)  Pisces (the sign of the two fishes tied together and both trying to swim in different directions)  Pisces has a great imagination and great emotional needs.   Pisces people spend so much time trying to sort out their lover/partner's problems that they often do not look at their own needs.

I find that belonging to the Spiritualist Church provides me with all the love I can take.  It does not matter what Astrological sign a member is, you can be sure to get a hug and a feeling of being loved.
Realising that we are all spiritual souls here to learn our current lessons is a very comfortable way to live.  We do not have to 'push' others (family or friends) as we know that they too are on their journeys and have their own needs and loves.
Because of this we can Love God, love the Universal Intelligence ,Love Family, Love friends and possibly Love a lover!!        

Saturday, 28 February 2015

NEW TALKS AND WORKSHOPS





2017



My first  platform  this year is on 22nd January at the Spiritualist Church cnr. Swan and Queen Sts. Newcastle.
This starts at 3pm to 5pm

My next platform will be at the Entrance Spiritualist group, 204 The Entrance Rd, Long Jetty. on Sunday 29th January from 2pm to 4.30pm.        

.The next platform will be at the Entrance Spiritualist Group 204 The Entrance Rd. Long Jetty.            from 2pm to 4.30pm.  on Sunday 21st May.

.The next platform will be at the Newcastle Spiritualist Church, cnr. Swan and Queen sts on Sunday  23rd July from 3pm to 4.30pm.

The next platform will be at the Entrance Spiritual Group, 204  The Entrance Rd. Long Jetty on Sunday 24th Sept;ember.  from 2pm to 4.30pm.

The next platform will be at Newcastle Spiritualist Church, cnr Swan and Queen Sts. Newcastle. on Sunday 22nd October from 2pm to 4.30pm

 I am always available for Astrology/Numerology Charts.  For that I need your name, plus full Birth name, place of birth, time of birth (if known)   If not I can 'douse' the time for you with my pendulum.  I also need to know where you live now in order to add a progressed chart with your other information showing you where your planets have moved to now in order to give you the support you need to accomplish your current direction.
You can arrange a time to see me at Mayfield West (takes about one to one and a half hours to talk to you about your Astrology and Numerology)   or I can send it to you with a cassette recording or USB stick. When people come to see me to have their Chart  reading they usually use their Mobile or tablet to tape the session
The cost is $100.00.   I have kept it at this price for many years even though it should be dearer.              This is so that whoever needs this information can afford to see me.

I HAVE BEEN ASKED TO HELP VARIOUS PEOPLE WITH THEIR UNDERSTANDING OF THE SUBJECTS THAT I HAVE TAUGHT OVER THE LAST 40 YEARS AND HAVE DECIDED TO PUT FORWARD MY ABILITY TO BE A MENTOR  TO THOSE INTERESTED IN ASTROLOGY, NUMEROLOGY, COLOUR THERAPY, GRAPHOLOGY, HEALING  AND SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT

COST  $50.00 PER HR.   Phone (02) 40238406    shirleydarby@dodo.com.au
Address 4/315 Maitland Rd. Mayfield West 2304.   (FOR APPOINTMENTS)

Thursday, 19 February 2015

DEATH DOESN'T HURT.

Recently I read a book by by a world famous American medium called James Van Praagh in which he states "Death doesn't hurt!
He was quoting dozens of people who had passed over and they all said that they did not remember the moment of actually dying.   Some of the things they told him were "I remember standing in the bathroom and the next thing I was here".  Others have said " I remember a car coming towards me and then I was here".    He says that none of them remember any pain connected with their death, only the peace and love they were suddenly enveloped in.
I have been telling my students for years that YOU CAN ONLY FEEL PAIN WHEN THE SOUL INHABITS THE BODY!   If the Soul sees a car heading for you when you are driving and there is no hope of getting out of the way the Soul jumps out of the body.   How many people have reported that after an accident they did not feel any pain for several hours, often they had broken limbs but did not feel them till later in the day WHEN THE SOUL RETURNED INTO THE BODY.  THEN!! you can feel pain.
One of my recent Blogs was about Body and Soul.   It is important for us to remember that we are SOULS inhabiting the vehicle we created to travel through this lifetime.  The body can feel pain but the Soul cannot.

This is what happens when we have an operation.  The doctors push the Soul energy out of the body so that it does not feel pain.   Quite often it takes a while for the Soul to re enter the body and for that time you do not feel pain.

I have been involved with Spiritual Churches for over 30 years and never once have I heard a medium report when talking to a person who has passed over anything about the pain of passing.

So, leaving the body is painless, but entering the body at birth is painful.                                                         When the time comes for us to re enter the world we have to leave our warm liquid world that we have lived in for many months and make a painful journey down a tight passage.   At the end of this journey we are propelled or pulled into a place of light and noise.   Our new bodies are poked and prodded and then, if we have not cried yet to show our stress we are smacked!.  And so our life in our new body begins and we start to learn our new lessons with our new parents and siblings once more.

As we travel through this new life it is important to remember that WE can care for or damage this body.
The physical vehicle (the body) is always affected by the Soul's needs.   The Chakra system that is connected with all areas of the body starts in the head and continues down the spine to connect with the seven major Chakras.   These Chakras then open out towards the front of the body and interact with the organs in that section of the body.
The Soul feeds its needs and emotions into the brain and the brain then sends messages to the appropriate Chakra.   When we work with our Soul's energies and try to be loving, helpful and useful beings the Soul can send calm energies to the appropriate Chakra, keeping that part of the body in good health.
When we send messages of stress, and anger through the brain and down the spine it will send that feeling  to the appropriate Chakra that can cause disturbances to the organs of that section of the body.
If we feel that we cannot express our words or needs the message will be sent to the Throat (Blue) Chakra and we can have problems in that area.  How many of us get sore throats, tight shoulders etc. when we cannot express our needs.
The area that is often affected in women is the Sacral area (just below the belly button).  This is the area most affected when we have all types of relationship problems.

So in order to keep our vehicle (the body) in good condition it is important to work with the Soul's need for love and caring for others. (as well as ourself).

It is good to know that when the time comes for our Soul to return home and break it's connection with its physical vehicle that has carried it through this lifetime the we can return in peace for a rest before continuing on our quest to be the best person (soul) that we can be.

  

Friday, 5 December 2014

LET GO AND ACCEPT

How hard it is to 'let go' of the built up attitudes we have formed in our lifetimes.   Until we are five years old we are surrounded by situations, nationality, attitudes, important issues to family members.   This is called the Moon time in a child's life.   It is a time when children have not yet learned to express themselves in words and only learn about who they are expected to be and family values through their emotions.   This is the time that sets off attitudes for life, as they are kept in deep feelings that create our patterns of behavior. We often do not understand our deep seated opinions as they were not formed in a time when we could  discuss them.

We all come into the world with our MAP. our Astrology chart, that shows us why we are here and what we have come to learn this time.    Early training will help or hinder our path, depending on what we have to learn.   We may have had parents who gave us the training to fit in with our Astrology direction and this will make life easier for us.   We may have had parents whose attitudes did not fit in with the direction we were headed for this lifetime.  That can make it harder.    But there will always be a reason for it.

During our lifetime we have special times when the Planets and Numbers give you the opportunity to let go of old attitudes and comfort zones to become the person you incarnated to be.    When we reach the age of 29, or sometime 30 the Planet Saturn will have had it's first journey through space and returned to the spot it was in your Birth Chart.   This is known as Saturn Return.   Saturn is a Planet that teaches us responsibility and it's return signals to our soul that it is time to let go of things we do not need anymore and become a responsible adult.   It is usually a difficult time as we often do not want to let go of old habits and attitudes and take on more responsibility.
When we are 38 or 39 Pluto (the Planet of transformation)....yes, it is a Planet, don't let them tell you otherwise.  It is a most powerful Planet and has a tremendous affect on the world when it is in power.
So...when we are 38 or 39 the Planet Pluto makes a square aspect to it's position on your Birth chart.
As Pluto is there to transform you it is often quite uncomfortable and you often have problems with others who have not had this situation in their lives.  This will happen three times, (usually in one year).   Pluto wants you to start to accept the Spiritual side of your nature and to 'let go' of the material things in life driving you.   He does not ask you to give up your material things but to start to appreciate that they do not give you the inner comfort you need.
A little after this we get another 'push' to let go and accept when the Planet Uranus makes an opposition aspect to where it was in your Birth chart.   This happens when you are 42 (as the Planet Uranus takes 84 years to circuit the earth.)   Uranus comes in quickly and often makes you start to think in a new way.  This will happen three times (usually in one year) until you decide that you must express your own thoughts even though you know that it will upset some people.
Uranus is the Planet governing Aquarius, and as we are entering the Age of Aquarius Uranus will try to push us to let go of our old Piscean ways of sacrifice and judgement.  It is now a time of acceptance and tolerance to other ideas and other people.   The more we try to bring LIGHT into the world and live in love and acceptance, the more the DARK side will try to keep us sacrificial and judgemental.   This is happening all over the world now as nations fight nations and religions fight other religions.
It is important to all Spiritual people to let go of old judgements and accept the fact that we are all different and we all have things that are important to us.   To each person their ideas are important and need to be accepted as their own even if we do not share their opinions.
When we reach 50 or 51 the Planet Chiron (pronounced Kiron) finishes it's journey through Uranus (learning about acceptance) and Neptune (learning about our Spiritual nature) and returns to Saturn (taking responsibility for our actions).   Chiron represents a wound we carry from past lives and one we have come to heal this lifetime through different situations we have been involved with.                                                  

 Chiron can feel very painful if we persist in our old negative habits.   But if we take in the lessons that Saturn, Pluto, Neptune and Uranus have taught us life will become more peaceful and we will be able to use this knowledge to be of comfort and benefit to others.

Tuesday, 4 November 2014

BODY AND SOUL

Our Souls have their home in Heaven, along with the other 20 or so others that are part of our Soul Group.   This group of Souls are those we work with lifetime after lifetime in order to develop ourselves to the highest standard we can achieve.  We can be a mother this time, and learn the lessons of a mother, a soldier another time, a rich person, a poor person, male or female,depending on whatever lessons our Soul needs to develop

In order to learn these lessons we create, with the help of our Guiding Spirits a suitable vehicle for our Soul to live in here in the Earth School.  The Soul will stay in this body for the length of time it has decided it needs to learn things, such as caring for others, taking responsibility, having fun, being a parent, etc.

When a body is being created for the Soul to use as its vehicle here on Earth the Soul visits the body several times during its growth. It does not usually inhabit the body until the last month of growth or when the body is travelling down the birth canal.   Some Souls choose to inhabit the body after the birth.    Then the Soul has the job of learning to live in this vehicle and be comfortable in it.   Occasionally a Soul will feel that they are not happy with this arrangement as they do not feel that they can align with the body.  So they will leave.

Not all of our Soul group incarnates with us each time.  Some stay behind and keep an eye on us and try to help if they can.  Choosing what we need to learn and who will work with us this lifetime has to be worked our before we leave.  If we were not a caring parent in past lives one of our Soul group will take on the role of being a difficult mother or father in order that we may learn how this feels.

There is also an 'outer' group of other souls that we have spent time with in different lives who will make short appearances in our lives in order to help us or push us in a new direction.     Shakespeare (who was a very advanced Soul) said, "All the World is a stage, the men and women merely players.  They all have their exits and their entrances.  One man in his time plays many parts.   It is rather like that.  This World is the stage where we come to play our parts with other members of our Soul group who have their own particular lesson to learn   We decide before we come here what role we will play.
Often we hear of little children trying to 'mother' their mother as it seems so natural to them.  But this lifetime they are here to learn to accept guidance rather than giving it.   Some people have the most amazing talents and abilities that it is impossible to understand where these skills came from.    They would be part of the Soul's knowledge gained from many other lifetimes.
We create a body (our vehicle) to transport us through life, and it will wear out eventually (while the soul does not) so it is important to look after it well.

As our Soul uses our physical body to learn lessons in the dense atmosphere of Earth it can 'pop' out any time it needs to.  IF YOUR SOULS SENSES THAT YOUR PHYSICAL BODY IS GOING TO BE DESTROYED IT CAN POP OUT BEFORE THAT HAPPENS.  YOU CAN ONLY FEEL PAIN WHEN YOUR SOUL INHABITS YOUR PHYSICAL BODY.
When you have a car accident and you 'nearly' get killed you can walk around with a broken arm, leg or anything else (and feel no pain) until your Soul decides to re enter your body.  (THEN you will feel pain)
I HAVE FOUND THIS TO BE A SOURCE OF COMFORT TO THOSE WHO LOST SOMEONE IN A CAR ACCIDENT OR FIRE (The Soul moves out when it knows that the body will be destroyed or injured)    If the Soul decides that it wants to stay when  the body is being attacked then the body will feel pain.  The Soul may not have finished all that it had to learn and will try to stay in the body, even though it is in pain.
When the Soul feels that it has finished its lessons here on Earth it can remove itself and return to its Heavenly Home.   As the vehicle it has created starts to break down in old age it can decide to leave it.
Because we only send a part of our Spiritual energy here to Earth when we start a new 'experience' of growth, as do all of the other Souls who work with us in Heaven or on Earth there is always a 'part' of each member of the Soul group we belong to waiting for us when we return.

I find this a comfort as some of my closest Soul group companions are still here on the Earth plane, but when I return, part of them will be there waiting for me.


Thursday, 23 October 2014

THE POWER OF YOUR NAME.

Before we come back to this Earth School we work out what Sun sign we are going to be, what time we will get here so that we have the right Ascendant to face the world and help us to do all the things we have decided to do this lifetime.  We choose the parents and the country that will give us the opportunity to do the things we have come to learn.   Many people wonder at the parents but  we need to realise that WE chose them in order to learn and develop.  We choose the right day, at the right time of the year and from the moment we arrive the Planets start to move, giving us the opportunity to experience and learn our lessons.
The ONLY thing that has not been set in concrete is our NAME.  This is something that parents and relatives talk about before a child is born.    This is the only thing that WE can do to add to a child's experience of life.
Each letter in a name has a number, and these numbers can be added up and reduced to a single digit.
The first and middle name (and sometimes in different cultures there are more) we can give but the Sir name is something that is already there, and it has tradition attached to it.
In many fairy stories the good fairy comes in at the end of the birth celebrations and gives a name that is suitable for the new child, and one that will help them in life.
It is rather like that when you are trying to decide on a baby's name.   You can have wanted a special name but when you saw your baby suddenly another, more suitable name popped into your head.    I know I had Martin chosen for my last boy but (as he was 11lb,2oz and blonde) it did not fit my concept of a suave slim brunette.    He is still a big man (not fat) and Kevin suits him well.
Many times when I have been at fetes doing readings or having someone talking to me about their Astrology and Numerology, they have changed the name they were given.   Some were still comfortable with that but I noticed when people were approaching 40 (4 being the number of creating your foundations) they told me that they had, or were going back to their original name as they found that they liked it.
There are other advantages in using your full name instead of shortening it.   One of my friends Anthony got me to do an Astrology/Numerology chart for him.   The numbers of your date of birth create a graph so you can see what numbers you need to work on.    When I added his name as Tony the chart was not complete, but when I added Anthony we had the missing numbers to complete his chart.  a/1, and h/8.   These two numbers completed his graph (all the spaces were filled in)   As a sports person the shortened version of Tony was suitable,   He has found a new attitude from people he meets now that he is Anthony (a number 7)  That is the number of the 'guru' person.    His Tony name was ll//2.   This gave him a combination of 11- the person who wants to give others information  and 2 a very caring father
Elizabeth Taylor forbade anyone to call her anything but her full name Elizabeth (which is a wonderful name with so many different letters and so many numbers)  I don't know if she knew the Numerology meaning of Lizz, or Lizzy or Beth.   But she recognized  the power of her full name and felt more comfortable with it. It is a number 7 (the Guru number). It is the name of Queens, and women in authority.

Whenever you tell people your name, either your birth name or the one you are using now they will gain an impression of the type of person you are. (have a look at what you are showing them by using a different name).   I have had to point this out to many people who are going into business, that the name they are showing is not the right vibration for the type of business they are presenting.   If your family or friends call you by pet names or shortened names it is a good idea to have a look at how they see you.  They may be expecting you to behave in a manner that does not suit you.  

It is easy to work out your name.    Just write out 1 to 9 on a sheet of paper.   Under that write out the alphabet.   A goes under 1, B goes under 2, C goes under 3, D goes under 4, E goes under 5,                     F goes under 6 G goes under 7 and H goes under 8.  i goes under 9.     Then you start the next line.
J goes under 1, K goes under 2, L goes under 3 M goes under 4 N goes under 3,  0 goes under 6, P goes under 7, Q goes under 8 and R goes under 9.    In the third line.   S goes under 1, T goes under 2, U goes under 3, V goes under 4 W goes under 5, X goes under 6  Y goes under 7 Z goes under 8.

So now we have a,j and s under 1, b,k and t under 2, c, l and u under 3, d,m and v under 4, e, n and w, under 5  ,f,o, and x under 6, g, p and y under 7, h, q and z under 8 and i and r under 9.
If you make yourself up a little chart like this you can work out your name, your partners name, your children's names etc.
When you write down all the numbers connected to your name you can add them to a single digit EG-25 =2+5 = 7.  You can sometimes have a name that adds to 11, 22 or 33.  These are master numbers and are harder to work with in this physical world.   They are written 11/2, 22/4 and 33/6.    Many women find it hard to use the 11 as it is about telling people about new ideas, they prefer to use the 2, that is the mother number.   22 is practical help for humanity.  Many people prefer to only work on practical help for themselves instead of giving their help to humanity.  33 is the highest of the healing numbers we use at this time.  Many people prefer to only work on their own healing.   How you use your numbers is up to you.

Numerology has a very close connection to Astrology.  Many of the words used to describe numbers are also used in describing Astrological signs.    They do not run through in order as I have seen suggested in a book from a person who should know better.
No.1 Strong, wanting to be a leader, dashing into things. A sporty sign for men and women (like Aries)
No 2. The carer/nurturer, often is used by other people as they find it hard to say no.(like Pisces)
No.3 Communicator, traveller, happy soul, don't like to be pinned down.  Need to learn (like Sagittarius)
No.4 Hard worker, dependable, thorough, kind, like stability and planing for the future (like Taurus)
No 5 Fun, change, communicator, likes to be able to go in all directions physically and mentally (like Gemini)
No 6 Counsellor, interior decorator, likes a happy home and family.  Wants to keep things nice.(like Libra)
No 7 Teacher, thinker, creative, alone. sexy. (like Scorpio)



I hope you enjoy working out your name.   There are lots of books on Numerology. You will probably find some different ideas to mine.   I studied with David A Phillips so I use his methods.
My e mail address is    shirleydarby@dodo.com.au.   if you get stuck!.


Sunday, 28 September 2014

LANGUAGE OF THE BODY

We have just had a fun day at the Spiritual Church in Newcastle discovering all the things that the body sends out as messages to those who can see them.

The forehead can indicate taking in all the facts or dashing into situations.   The eyes can express emotions, the nose can indicate intelligence, need to be nurtured or poking your nose into other people's business.   The mouth shows softness or hardness or vulnerability, the chin can show aggression or timidity.

The shape of the hand can show a person's abilities and attitudes.   A person could be a water sign ( an emotional sign) and have a hand that shows a Fire personality.   This would create a person who could be soft and caring but able to be in charge of situations as well.    If a person was an air sign (the sign of talking and adapting) and they had an Earth shaped hand they would adapt their talking to practical matters instead of the need to talk about everything.
The lines on the hands can show the interest the person puts into their lives, their emotional needs and emotional set backs.   They can also show how a person uses their mind and if their desired destination in life has arrived or is on its way.

Handwriting is the end result of the way we think.   In many countries applicants for important jobs have to enter their particulars  in writing so that the employer can tell if they are suitable for the particular job.
Handwriting can show it you like people, or are introverted.   Whether you want to do your own thing or need support in your life.    It can indicate whether you like to investigate small details or dash into things without planning.    If you were applying for a job where you would have to be on your own all day and work on small details the handwriting expert would look at how far apart your words were placed and how small your writing was.    If however they were looking for a publicity agent they would look for a person with large forward slanting writing with I dots flying off to the right.
Handwriting can indicate headaches or sore feet or bowel problems etc.    So it is a tool that can look into many areas of a person's abilities.

I have found that there are NEW Chakras working in the body now.    They combine the colours of the established seven chakras that we know about.   This creates 13 chakras in all.    These new chakras can be seen when holding a pendulum over the body up higher than usual.   They are not active in everybody as they are to do with accepting the new Aquarian Age attitudes of tolerance and accepting other people's needs.
I have found that these chakras can be found in a band around the head.    Each one of these chakras sends out a message of the needs of the body.   The activity of the pendulum near these chakras can indicate an interest or dis interest in the qualities of each chakra.

We also worked on other areas to see what the body can tell us.
It was a good day that involved happy and interested women.
The more we  learn about what the body shows the more understanding and tolerant we can be.               This is the message of the new layer of the Aura ( the Orange layer) that is connected to the Sacral Chakra, the chakra of relationships.    It is now time to look beyond all the shoulds that have ruled our lives and look at the needs of the others.